I'm terribly sorry the man who inseminated your mother was injured.
I just don't know how you can be "estranged" for 20 years and then expect a group hug of condolences for the situation. If he came here and hated it so much, he could have bought another 1 way ticket somewhere else.
It'd just be a darn shame...a tragic, Hiroshima style loss of humanity for you to leave cp.
"Silence is Golden. Duct Tape is silver"