Originally Posted by Lumpy
Regardless of what happened, imagine for a moment that you do break up w/ her and you both go your separate ways. Could you live w/ the thought of her being w/ someone else? If you truly love her, like you said, that thought will bring sadness or a fit of rage over you.
I've had people tell me that, or I've heard people tell other people that "if you can't stand the thought of them with someone else, that means you love that person." I say that idea is BS (no offense Lumpy).
If you've been in even a semi serious relationship that you could see becoming serious - when the topic of breaking up comes up, you never like the thought of them with someone else. Nobody wants to think about their girlfriend with another guy.
To me, if you want to know if you truly love that person, the question you need to ask yourself is can YOU live without her?