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Originally Posted by ClearmontChief

Dude, I'm not sure you're serious or not, so many smartelics on here saying off the wall stuff all the time...

As a person who has suffered a suicide in the family, I agree it's cowardly. I feel it's the utmost in selfish decisions a person could ever make. All it does is transfer hurt and pain. Somebody who's contemplating that are obviously hurting and in pain about something. But, if successful, you pass your hurt, pain, and confusion on down the line. You angelic wife will turn stoic and your kids will carry guilt FOREVER that they had done something wrong.

My wife's father took his life. She's NEVER been the same. Used to be happy go lucky, a lot of fun to be around. Now, she's never happy...she's depressed and on all kinds of meds. Used to be she'd never take a Tylenol. She's ANGRY! Mad at the world with no patience for anything. Hurtful, hurtful words during arguments and when angry at the kids. I have to tell them "don't take anything personal when words are said in anger." That's helped them a lot. For me, I just hang on because she loves me, and I remember the way things used to be and live in the hope that she'll change back. But, I wouldn't count on it. She's still madder than hell at him, has never forgiven him and never will...and, thus his selfish act he just passed along his troubles to us.

Would you ever really want to have your kids feel that way? You say you've been a terrible dad. Well, that my friend would be ultimate child abuse. You'd ruin a bit of them forever. Don't ever do it, and consider speaking with a counselor or minister.

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