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Originally Posted by ClearmontChief
Congrats to you for making it through, reaching out and receiving help. As I read your words, it's obvious from the point of view of someone who's contemplated suicide as a logical escape from your pain. To those going through those thoughts, I'm sure you don't consider it as cowardly or selfish. I understand that completely. Those going through it may think it is courageous or takes bravery. But, you can't think of it JUST in those terms. There are victims of suicide...and, I'm not talking about the person putting the gun in the mouth or taking the handful of pills. I'm talking about the family VICTIMS. When a person hurts, and has decided to become 'brave' enough to complete the act, they don't think about anything else. They don't think about the victims they're leaving behind. They merely think that they're in pain, and this is the way for them to escape THEIR pain. But, they selfishly don't consider the transferrance of pain to their wife or husband, parents, or children. Pain doesn't go away, it's just transferred to someone else to deal with. My family is a victim of suicide, it changed my wife forever. Our oldest kids hurt from it...perhaps even would now be more likely to see it as an option when they hurt.
Sorry, there is more than one person effected by suicide. Might take them courage to complete. But, passing their pain to others is cowardly and selfish. If more people would consider how their daughter will be effected, what will it do to Mom, what will my friends think? Maybe that pause would be enough to stop it from happening and having them reach out for help.
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I don't think that's necessarily true... Brianfo was clearly thinking about his wife and kids when he created the thread. I understand why people think it's a selfish act, but for the most part, I really don't think it's a decision that's made lightly... it might be sudden for loved ones, which I think would lead to thoughts about how it was selfish, etc; but I'm willing to bet it's anything but sudden for the person contemplating suicide. Brianfo obviously has people to live for, and he clearly knows that, or else he might not be reaching out for help at all. Perhaps not trying at all would be selfish, but that would just be speculation on our part.