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Originally Posted by Phobia
What's to understand? They're dead. Gone. It's all over. By their own hand. They did it to themselves. Why torture the living with questions and agony? What if I had been a better son or daughter? Why didn't I get better grades? Why didn't I just get a paper route so I could have helped with bills? What if had been nicer to him? What if I'm suicidal too? Why didn't I tell him I loved him more often? That's what I want to understand. Why would any person ever kill themselves for any reason knowing their family is left with all the turmoil?
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Those are some of the consequences of suicide, and they're ****ing horrible. Know what else is horrible? Lots of random, awful, unfortunate shit that happens every day. That doesn't mean blame is anything other than an instinctive defense mechanism for having some way of dealing with shocking, tragic events.
Blaming a suicidally depressed person for the state of their brain is as stupid as blaming someone for their appendix bursting.
To clarify: This is not to "defend" suicide in any way, because I've had a friend leave a suicide note and disappear without word until the next day (thankfully, she was stopped by people at her school and is doing a lot better these days). It was one of the worst days of my life. I know lots and lots and lots of people who have had to fight depression and suicidality. Suicide is a horrifying thing and isn't a viable solution to pretty much anything short of terminal illness, but
rational thoughts are not what lead people to it.
Death is not appealing to suicidal people, and the fear of hurting others is probably the main thing standing between a lot of suicidal people and the act itself. But sometimes your outlook gets so bad that it looks like your only way to end the suffering, and it overrides every single thought and emotion you experience. And if you've never felt the panic and desperation and complete mental exhaustion that brings you to that point but still feel the need to comment on how others have dealt with that seemingly unbearable weight, kindly **** right off.