Originally Posted by JD10367
I agree with Icarus. In the first place, despite what the young bucks out here think, it's actually a good thing to have friends, especially those of the female persuasion. It gives you insights into women, as well as a conduit to other women. Not to mention, it's simply good to have friends in general. If she's the only person you know in the city, even more so. And for your relationship with her specifically, in football parlance, "you can't make the club from the tub"; if you're not in her life in some way, you're "out of sight, out of mind". Haven't you see ANY romantic movie of the last 30 years? I think half of them involve people in the Friend Zone who, by the end of the film, turn it into something else. The older you get, the more you realize it's actually a beneficial idea to be friends with the person you ****, and actually enjoy being around them all the time, not just when they're on their knees in front of you. It's kind of essential, actually. It's a lot easier to move from friends to lovers than it is to find some stranger to bang and then try to move from lovers to friends, IMO.
Life is not a movie. At some point, a non-platonic relationship (it's not platonic if one person has feelings they have to hide) becomes unhealthy.
I say don't be a door mat. Don't be readily available every time she calls. Do what you can to make new friends and date people. If something's meant to happen, it will. And, no, do no initiate contact...ever.