Originally Posted by VAChief
This is definitely a sad topic, and it certainly isn't black and white for most of us. What I don't hear a lot about in these discussions however is burden of responsibility for the men. It would seem that their lives should be comparably interrupted as well. They made the same choice.
It's fair to point out that the man is just as responsible for this as the woman (although I tell my girls that it's up to them to protect themselves from irresponsible men and I think all girls should view it that way).
But, the man's life is frequently interrupted for 18 years if the woman decides to keep the baby and look to him for child support. He gets no voice in whether the child lives or dies, whether the child is given up to a better home or becomes a victim of an irresponsible parent, etc. I have no more sympathy for him than I have for her, but both have their lives impacted when they get themselves into a situation like this through their joint irresponsibility.