Originally Posted by Radar Chief
By not going youíre not only hurting your mom your letting the doucher win. He will have then successfully chased you away from your own family. Donít know if thatís his goal or not but **** him regardless. Go and make him the uncomfortable one. Keep your trap, mostly, shut but make sure he leaves knowing that if he ever lays a finger on your mother in anger heíll finish his life eating through a straw and shitting in a bag.
This is a good point. If you go, he'll be more uncomfortable and insecure than you will be. You win just by showing up and not talking to him.
The point about the kids is valid, so if you don't want your kids to see the discomfort, just go on your own and do their Thanksgiving at home. Two turkeys never killed anybody unless someone has a hunting story that I haven't heard.