Originally Posted by htismaqe
1 trip there on Thanksgiving isn't going to fix that.
The drunk boyfriend is there 24x7 and has complete control of the situation.
Him showing up on Thanksgiving only means the BF has to wait until he leaves to start being an asshole again.
Not showing up tells his mother loud and clear that he doesn't approve.
This isn't about the BF, this is about his mother.
All true. But, there's a lot we don't know... and if this is a situation where she's kind of crying out for help, then he's leaving her in a dire situation. This is about his mother, which is why I'd go ... maybe you leave the kids at home, but I think I still go if I'm him.
Again - lots of back story here that is not known.