Originally Posted by FAX
I just noticed this thread thing and, to be honest, I haven't read the whole deal ... it's kinda long at this point. Nevertheless, here's my answer;
Yes, you're doing the right thing, Mr. tooge. Unquestionably.
Your first responsibility is to your children now. Your mother has to make her own mistakes going forward (just as we all do) now that you are all grown up with kids of your own.
Blackball this dumbass until he is gone (which won't be very long, I guarantee). If he isn't going to AA meetings, he isn't serious and he won't get better ... that, my friend, is another rock-solid guarantee.
I don't have kids, so I can't totally empathize on protecting your kids, but this sounds solid to me. I would add to let her know that, although she is upset with you right now, you will always be there when she absolutely needs you.