I have friends and family who went to Joplin with tractors, loaders and labor and were jacked around too in all fairness.
They finally found an individual who wanted help.
They've been to New Orleans, Florida and Joplin and have returned frustrated every time.
No one likes working as a volunteer on your stuff while you sit on your ass and watch, or especially when you're complaining. From what I've been told, NY and NJ are by far the most demanding and unappreciative people to date.
"Silence is Golden. Duct Tape is silver"