Originally Posted by InChiefsHell
Man, this is a tough one. First, now when you see her being fake to your family, it will piss you off. Second, you will start seeing your family behave in ways that suddenly you realize she can't stand...it'll make you wish your family wouldn't act a certain way all the sudden. Also, let's face it, it's your family. You think you guys are great. She doesn't. Who knows what the hell perspective she has, but it's obviously not like yours. This indicates a much larger problem for your future.
Personally, I'd just say, look. I read your text. I didn't mean to invade your privacy, but I did and I'm sorry. But I need to know, why do you hate my family so much?
Figure it out before the "I Do's" happen.
Yep. Better now, than later. Hash this shit out. And I'd say "Hey, your phone beeped and you weren't there. I picked it up, and wow!" Go from there.
But I also think I'd be open about my insecurities before getting married. That's a pretty big one in having to read her text messages. You should both know the worst of each other before you get married. If you can't accept it, don't accept forever with one another. Unless of course, you're like the half of this country that thinks getting divorced is a perfectly good out if things don't work out.
And I'm not trying to go all religious here on you, because that's not why I don't believe in divorce. I just think that if divorce is no big deal to people, then marriage shouldn't be either.