Originally Posted by InChiefsHell
Too many people don't take this stuff as seriously as they should for fear of rocking the boat. Rock that ****er now. Later after you are married, it gets a lot more painful and expensive. Besides, what is there to fear? You either want this thing to work or you don't. If you have a bunch of problems bringing stuff up now, imagine what it'll be like after you are married.
I agree with this. Just got out of a roller coaster 2 and a half year relationship. I let far to many things slide in fear of rocking the boat and pissing her off. I learned the hard way that a relationship with her was destined to fail. My ex was simply unable to carry a healthy relationship and the more i learned of her past the more leary i got. She wasn't shy by any stretch. She openly talked crap on my family, my friends, and often times I was the center of those crap talking sessions. Why she said what she said is still beyond me. After awhile I rocked the boat calling her out on her problems, her lies, her deception, and all the other bullcrap fakeness I endured. It wasn't long and she was ready to jump ship when she realized I was done playing her game. Early on she'd grab my phone and look it over like it was nothing. I got ahold of hers early on a few times, had one episode of something I did not like reading. After that for 2 years that thing never left her sight. Who knows what else she was hiding. Either way your going to have a battle on your hands. If she's the one for you this will work out and you will clear this hurdle.