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Originally Posted by Jim Jones
Lots of good stuff in this thread, thanks all. Now, to address a few points:
First of all, I'm not worried about the "what else is she lying about?" thing because, hell, I've read her text messages, so I know exactly what is going on with her.
Secondly, I think it's interesting the split on people who think it's OK and those who think it's creepy for me to read her texts. I fully admit I have insecurities/trust issues based on past relationships. I don't think that means I am incapable of being in a relationship. If I "snoop" around and read her phone and find something bad, then **** it, I'm glad I did it. It's better to find out that way then find out 10 years into marriage that I'm handcuffed to a total bitch.
In a little bit of defense for myself, I'm totally open with my shit. Sometimes I'll get a text or I'll be texting someone and she'll pick up my phone to see who it's from or ask who I'm texting and I'll show her. She also goes on my phone to play games. I don't have a passcode on my phone or anything so she's totally open to snoop through there if she wants. Has she? I don't know, but she won't find anything questionable if she does.
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I think you have this sense of guilt for looking through her phone. Get over it. You are marrying this girl and you need to know what you are getting into. She knows that you have trust issues from dishonesty in past relationships. You should know she feels about your family.