Originally Posted by Literature
Is that because of how you feel about it, or how your in-laws feel about it?
A little bit of both. At the time, we both liked our parents, but I didn't really see it being any of his business if his daughter wanted to get married or not (I was fresh out of graduate school and full of feminist ideas about such things). I also made the decision somewhat quickly and never saw him in person prior to the time when I wanted to pop the question to my wife.
Much of the regret is because her brothers and mother have since given me shit for not asking his permission, specifically her mother. Since he's now dead, I have some regret that I didn't just ask him, especially because he and I were very close and got even closer after I married his daughter. It just would have been a "nice" thing to have done, I guess.