Originally Posted by Canofbier
Are you talking about my hypothetical daughter at this point? If my daughter is at the point that she'd happily marry someone like that, I'd have already failed. Regardless, even if I did say no, that would only serve to create division between my daughter's family and I; she already loves this guy, and it's my job to support her even if I don't like the guy.
Also, I never meant to create the impression that I don't care whether her dad/family like me or not - I care about that very much. I just don't see how asking for their blessing/permission would do anything to strengthen that relationship, unless it's something that they specifically want.
pretty much; if one is inclined to ask for the blessing, and they're nervous about the response being a 'no'.....then chances are (all things being equal) that you're doing/have done something that they find as worriesome.
I've probably worded it poorly, but you know what I mean i hope.