Originally Posted by lazepoo
It only occurred to me after speaking with friends. An overwhelming majority of my friends asked for permission before proposing. I am 30 years old for generational reference.
The idea rubbed me the wrong way, though, because we were both independent adults which is why I made it clear that I sought their support rather than permission.
In talking with her parents that day, I found out that her Dad had not asked, which I found humorous.
No one actually asks for permission, and anyone who says they have, is wrong whether they realize it or not. What they are actually doing is asking for the father's blessing.
If he says no, they would not have shrugged their shoulders, said "well shoot, so much for that", and broken up with the girl.