A marriage is a social contract by law. Essentially, it allows two people to be treated as one interchangeable person. That gender of the participants should have no bearing on how the government recognizes that contract. Churches shouldn't be compelled to perform religious ceremonies that are proscribed by their dogma. The drama is unnecessary.
"Knowing there is a world that will outlive you, there are people whose well-being depends on how you live your life, affects the way you live your life, whether or not you directly experience those effects.
You want to be the kind of person who has the larger view, who takes other people’s interests into account, who’s dedicated to the principles that you can justify; like justice, knowledge, truth, beauty and morality.