Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower
6'0 215lb college-fratboy beer gut and a tight neck that doesnt give me a good jawline or manly chin, so I hide it with goatee.
I don't try; I have no game, and I'm okay with that. It's all confidence and I have none of that. When you wake up every morning and realize who you are and have to put on a false front just to impress people who wouldnt normally give a shit about you, it doesn't seem worth it.
I have my friends and that's all that matters now.
Discuss Thrower....growing up I always thought I was a decent looking guy. I had the odd girl that was interested in me, but for the most part all my buddies got the attention from the girls. I had buddies who were not good looking, had terrible jobs, etc etc and they could get girls and I couldn't.
Eventually I met a great girl when I was 21 and have been married for 15 years now. Thats not the point though........
I always struggled with confidence growing up even though I had no reason to. About 8 yeas ago I started my own company. Well, it took off and I started to realize that I was good at my job and I didn't need to feel inferior to others. Because of the success of my business I started to feel better about myself. I started to gain confidence in who I was and it started paying off in all aspects of my life. There was a time would I would sit in a bar/pub in the corner with a sour look on my face. When my attitude changed and I became more confident everthing changed. Girls would just come up to me and talk to me. Girls who knew me before but never talked to me would all of a sudden start talking to me and flirting with me. Buddies who i went out with and would always pick up girls would be sitting there wondering why girls would come up and talk to me now. My whole life changed overnight and for one simple reason....... I smiled more.
Sometimes you just gotta put yourself out there and you will be surprised. Believe in yourself and people will pick up on it. Myself now, I don't care anymore what others think. I have a great wife and a couple kids and I couldn't care less about what I wear, what car I drive or what I do for work. But I will tell you one thing...I will never let my kids grow up with no confidence. Having no confidence ruined the first 30 years of my life and I won't let the happen to my kids.
Dont let it happen to you either. Just go out there and put yourself out there. And smile !!!!!!