Alright guys, I need help bad. I can't make new threads so I figure this is as good a place as any. My boys and I were eating at this Korean BBQ place. I was flirting with the waitress and we end up exchanging numbers. My friends and I leave and two hours later she calls me asking if I wanted to hang out after work. I meet her at her job before she gets out and we start walking back to her place. Along the way, she starts telling me how she’s been raped twice, how a drunk driver killed her cousin, and how her fiancée died while disarming a bomb in Israel. We get to her house and I thought I was going in with her, until she tells me we won’t be having sex until marriage and how she’s so happy to be my boyfriend. She goes inside and I’m left wondering, “What the **** just happened?”
She calls me the next day to hang out and we do. She’s introducing me to all her friends as her boyfriend and I’m scared shitless. I pull her aside and tell her we can still hang out and fool around, but I’m not looking for a relationship. She says, “You can still **** other girls and you don’t have to call me your girlfriend, but I wanna still call you my boyfriend.” I figure that’s a compromise and agree to it.
I had her over yesterday and we fooled around for an hour before she had to go to work. We agreed that I’d spend the weekend over he house. She calls me later that night crying about her life and how she wants to “just end it all”. I get about three or four different sets of text messages from her a day. I’m getting picture messages saying how “fate brought us together”. I’m genuinely scared when my phone rings now.
Today I remembered that I’m gonna be down south during the weekend for my sister’s graduation, so I let her know I won’t be able to hang out. She calls me crying again and goes on about how she’s “always going to be a failure” and how she understands if I don’t want to be with her anymore. She’s saying crazy shit about how “blood is blue until oxygen hits it” and how she’s cutting herself right there with me on the phone.
I don’t know what the **** I’m gonna do. My plan is to meet with her tomorrow (in public) and tell her that this isn’t healthy for either one of us and we need to end it. Let her know that she needs to get help immediately and ****ing bounce (I want to get this out of the way before I go down south). I’m going to give one of her coworkers my number and have him/her keep in contact so I know if she tries to hurt herself. But other than that, I have no idea what to do. I’ve seen other threads and you give good advice as a group, and I figure crowd sourcing couldn’t hurt at all. So what do you guys recommend? Thanks.