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Old 06-18-2013, 02:08 PM   #280
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How to Be a Gentleman: 12 Timeless Tips

1. Define Your Personal Style

When I hear ďgentlemanĒ I think suit, tie, polished shoesÖ and stuffy. Seriously, I just fell asleep thinking about it.

Luckily, the definition has evolved and isnít attached to a certain look anymore Ė itís all about attitude and how you carry yourself. Choose a personal style that reflects your personality and lifestyle. Donít buy clothes you think you should, otherwise you may as well wear a sandwich board that says I have no idea who I am!

2. Keep Your Hygiene in Check

Put effort into your appearance. Keep yourself clean, showered, and groomed. Women do enjoy scruffy, but controlled scruffy Ė you donít want your date asking where you hid your cardboard sign and paper cup.

In other words: donít smell. And perhaps reserve the gnarly Davy Jones beard for the NHL playoffs.

3. Be a Grown-up

Itís now commonplace for potential employers to check out your social media profiles. Youíll also be hard-pressed to find a woman who wonít do the same before dating you. Even if the pictures are from years ago and youíve since cleaned up your act, theyíre not going to see ďnowĒ you. Theyíre going to see ďthenĒ you, a.k.a. K-Fed hat and beer bong.

While youíre at it, set up a grown-up e-mail address. The sounds-dirty-but-isnít e-mail account youíve had since high school is the farthest thing from gentlemanly. Ever.

4. Keep Language PG-13

As someone whoís an unintentional potty mouth, I was alarmed to find out how many people are offended by swearing. I now do my best to keep the f-bombs at a minimum.

Itís obviously a huge no-no in professional settings, but trust me, when you constantly swear in your personal life, it becomes increasingly difficult to reel in the habit at work.

Consider this a top priority if you want to be a gentleman. Not only will expanding your vocabulary make you a better communicator, youíll impress others across the board with your intelligence and professionalism.

5. Connect With People


Say hello as youíre walking past a stranger. Let someone go in front of you in the grocery line. Make eye contact. Be approachable. Itís one of the best ways to open yourself up to new people, experiences, and professional connections.

To be a gentleman while youíre out, always remember itís all about them. Be a good listener. Ask questions. Take note of whatís important to them, and theyíll take note of you.

6. Find Your Purpose

Beyond a nice home and financial security, what do you want? What are you passionate about? What mark do you want to make? Define what you live for. Not only will you feel more fulfilled, itíll lead to so much depth and substance your head will spin. Everything will feel that much brighter.

Donít take my word for it: be a gentleman and find out for yourself.

7. Be Clear About What You Want


Not making a decision is a decision in itself, and itís not a good one! If you want the respect of others, know what you want and what you donít, and be clear about it. Knowing how to say no is one of the most well-respected things you can do for yourself.

You donít want to be a wishy-washy person who constantly flakes on those you care about because you over-commit, and you certainly donít want to be the guy with no opinion or backbone.

8. Hold the Door Open

Holding the door open for people is a gentlemanís calling card. Itís one of the most subtle yet powerful ways to show your consideration for others.

Game. Set. Match.

9. Keep Your Promises

A big part of being a gentleman is respecting othersí time and meaning what you say. If you say youíre going to meet someone at a specific time, donít be late. When you tell someone youíre going to help them with something, help them. When you promise youíll have a project done by a certain date, meet your deadline.

Not only will this build trust with those you care about, it will also help build self-trust, a crucial-yet-underrated form of trust when youíre a gentleman.

10. Return the Favor

Itís all about the little things, both at work and at home. If a co-worker helped you setup a killer presentation, help them with their annual report. If your girlfriend picked up groceries, carry them in for her. Always make sure youíre helping enhance the lives of those you care about.

11. Pick Up After Yourself

Keeping a tidy office, home, and car will leave a good impression on anyone you meet. It shows you take yourself seriously, and take pride in what youíve worked hard for.

Fast forward ten years to when youíre living with your future wifey: if you build the habit now, youíll be one of the few who arenít nagged about leaving their socks on the floor! Win/win.

12. Be You

Nobodyís looking to hire or date a Ken doll. Our professional and personal lives are now fused together thanks to technology, so drop all that compartmentalizing and be authentic 24/7. Let your guard down and stop trying to look so glossy. Not to sound all hippy, but just be.

Whatís ironic about the art of being yourself is what makes you unique is usually what makes you self-conscious. The flaws you find irritating are appealing and endearing to everyone else Ė theyíre what set you apart and make you memorable. Would you rather be memorable or a cardboard cutout? Thatís what I thought.

Being at ease with who you are is the sign of a true gentleman. Gentlemen donít lie or mislead Ė theyíre as comfortable with themselves as they want you to be. Being a gentleman never goes out of style Ė put these tips into practice and youíll be well on your way to gentleman status.

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