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Originally Posted by Tombstone RJ
It all depends on the judge. I don't care what your lawyer says. He may tell you that you have a rock solid, completely air-tight case against her and that you've done everything right.
Then the judge decides to side with the mother because he just thinks the kids are better off with Mom.
Happens all the time. Best of luck. Be prepared to fight and spend a lot of money doing so. The system is much more inclined to side with the mother, it's just the way it is. Years and years of too many asshole dads have kind of screwed it up for the good dads out there. And, then there's the judge and it all depends on which side of the bed he OR SHE wakes up on.
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not true. I am a case worker for the state of missouri and i see things like this literally everyday.
what you need to do first is get a paternity action. a paternity action is a legal document saying that the children are with you and the mother cannot come and take the children. Without the paternity action, the mother can come and take the children whenever she wants, even if you call the cops, they will not do anything because the cops side with the mother always. a paternity action nulls that.
you can pay for your own paternity action with a lawyer or you can make a referral for free to UMKC Law. a bunch of people in law school do paternity actions for legal practice under the supervision of an family court attorney (Katie O'mally) but they have a big waiting list because that where we send all of your clients lol. But since you are in Springfield, i dont know if there are any universities that have a program like this.
next, if you are doing everything you are saying like they go to school with you, all of their clothes are there and they are in a safe environment, there is a strong case that the children will stay with you. Also, the courts will want to see background checks of this new guy to make sure he is okay.
My background is in Abuse and Neglect so my courts are a little more intense when it comes to these things, but be prepared to prove that you can not only obtain stable and safe housing and transportation as well as being able to obtain and maintain appropriate clothing, food, and education and you have a very strong case because if she does not have a job down there or if she cannot show that she can obtain and maintain the above things, that can pose a risk to the children
and if you REALLY want to, call your insurance and get a psychological and psychiatric to rule out any mental illness on your part!!
good luck and keep us updated, ill be watching!!