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Originally Posted by MTG#10
I dont mind them going with her for the summer, but they are better off here with me and the rest of their family, friends, and school. Their lives are here, everything they know is here, and I do everything for them.
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so here's my advice--you and your lawyer meet with her and her lawyer and then your basic angle is "you can have the kids for a chunk of time during the summer (a few months) if you are deadset on leaving. However, I want the kids the rest of the time...." due to the reasons you've stated. If she agrees, great!
And don't be an ass, tell your ex you want her to be happy but you also want what is best for the kids. Be genuinely happy for her. But let her know your primary concern (and this really better by your primary concern) is the kids.
I say have lawyers involved because it all has to be legal and drawn up. But this type of negotiating is much less expensive than "I'll see you in court!" That's when the $$$$$$$ starts piling up. That's when things go from bad to worse and everyone is miserable.
If she says "no, I want full time custody with the kids and I want to move away with my new husband" than you can always go to court and let a judge decide if that is your only choice. But my advice to you, ESPECIALLY if you are on good terms with your ex wife, or even relatively good terms with her, is to try and work it out behind closed doors, with lawyers. But you gotta have the lawyers there to make everything official and then file the docs with the proper agencies, etc. This way if she ever changes her mind, you have every thing in writing.
Women change their minds all the time so I'm not saying this will lock everything down. I'm just saying it will protect you MORE if she changes her mind later.
Best of luck.