[wutamess]

I think you're asking should you let your son stay one of the best on his good team or be the average joe on the best team.

If so, why would you limit your son if there's more he can obtain? It wouldn't take any more out of your time to have him play on the best team so he can possibly be one of the best on that team too.

You're actually teaching him a lesson to settle for medicroty by having everyone float his boat while he's the best on that team.

All throughout my baseball life (been playing since I was 6 and possibly cuold've went pro if I had the patience that's another story) I've been the best on my average teams. But looking back at things I wish my dad would've put me in more competetive leagues or teams because 9 times out of 10 I would've worked to become the best on those teams too if I already wasn't. Plus it'll gave me more exposure to possibly make it to the majors.

I know you're thinking I'm going to live vicariously through my kids but if I'm ever presented with that same example with my kids, I'm going to make all the doors happen if that's what they want to do.

Luckily, I have a 9 yo that likes playing softball because it's the social thing to do. But if she was more serious about it and had a very competitive edge I'd give her what she wanted or a piece of what she could chew. Right now it's making sure she's getting all the proper technique down so that if she ever does want to take this seriously the foundation is atleast there for her to build on. I'm the assistant coach for her team and show no favortism and since she's my daughter I can handle her like I need to instead of baby talking to her like I'd talk with the other kids. What kills me the most is she looks like she's not having fun but she likes being out there. We kid with her every year that we're too broke to sign her up for the team (trying to give her an out) and she basically begs and pleads with us to let her play. Go figure.

Maybe this is something you should ask a male figure instead of looking at it from a woman's point of view. It's just that women 9 times out of 10 don't understand the competitive nature of the male athelete.