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Originally Posted by Lzen
I think you point out to expecting fathers those things that YOU feel so that YOU will not feel guilty. As for me, I am an honest person. And honestly I think you're a douche. I didn't fluff anything. Anyone who knows me knows that is the way I am. And I'm not a BSer. I'm a straight shooter. Always have been. My kids know that I love them, I'm honest and fair with them, and that I would do anything for them to have a good life. I didn't say anything about not making sacrifices. Sacrifices are part of having kids or being married. But that doesn't mean they are as bad as you make it sound.
Again, you didn't mention anything about the positives. To me, the positives far outweigh the negatives. I have a video of my oldest when he was 4 years old. I interviewed all of my kids in this same way when they were little. And I'm so glad I did because it is something that is way more valuable to me now than things like having a pristine house or a huge bank account. It is just me talking to him for about 20-30 minutes. But that is something that you can't buy.
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Internet comprehension is hard for most people, dunno why that is but it is. I'm specifically referring to new parents and dealing with very young children. It's important IMO that young people (partic fathers since they're the only ones who will relate to my opinions) know that there's nothing abnormal about being scared. Or being edgy, or feeling overwhelmed. They need that a helluva lot more than the tired old bullshit slap-on-the-back "Atta boy! Gonna be awesome! Congrats dude."
Well that's bullshit advice. You can disagree, I don't really care. I've relayed this info to many young guys who have thanked me later for the heads up and I've been called numerous times when they were struggling because I wasn't judgmental and I listened to them. One guy I knew was so shellshocked his first month that he had trouble driving to work. No kidding.