I think I've mainly got it sorted out now. The only issue I have left is if I go to messenger, compose, and then people, I get the list of the entire world still. I have Facebook set up to only sync with existing contacts, so I'm not sure why it's pulling all of these people still. So to fix that...
Otherwise, I'm getting happier
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Seems like this is a known issue no one ever addresses.
http://forum.xda-developers.com/show....php?t=1685490
http://forum.xda-developers.com/show....php?t=1370146