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Originally Posted by Mr. Flopnuts

I understand the viewpoint, I just disagree with it. If someone in my family turns out to be a monster, I'm not going to view him/her as family anymore. Nothing trumps being a monster. That's just my view.

I understand. In the end that is why I struggle with religion and the whole forgiveness and judgment aspects of almost all of them.

I just don't think love is something that goes away with the flip of a switch. You can be pained by someone's actions, find them reprehensible, and want to distance yourself but if you truly love someone it can't be cancelled on a moment's notice.

Nor should it be according to most religions that aren't completely whack. Even then, there is a forgiving God and if it can forgive why shouldn't I? But then sometimes I don't WANT to. I want to hold on to my judgy. Like with Sandusky. So it's just easier not to look to religion for the answers and try to deal with this on an emotional plane which has it's own pitfalls. So you go to the logical plane which states that someone does something bad they don't deserve love...end of story. But that goes back to my previous point. How does one just cancel love they feel because someone does something terrible? They can't.

It's easy for all of us here who have NO personal knowledge of the players involved in this tragedy to say 'screw them' and then decide they fit neatly into _______ category. In reality, no one loving someone in a healthy fashion and manner can simply switch off that love. It either wasn't there in the first place or they are fooling themselves.