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Originally Posted by Mr. Flopnuts
Yeah, I'd just dump her. Red flags are up. But hey, different strokes, for different folks.
My wife and I have an open relationship.  Not like that, freaks. We don't delete emails, or texts and have each others passwords to everything. I don't know if my wife checks my shit, and she doesn't know if I check hers. Because we have nothing to hide from each other.
How did that come about you ask? We've asked each other to pull something up for us at one time or another, and given each other our passwords. We have nothing to hide. And frankly, I thought that was perfectly normal. You guys are making me think it may not be. I don't care. We've been together for 10 years, without kids, so nothing is "keeping" us together. We love each other. That said, it didn't start until a couple of years into our marriage, so we'd been together for 4-5 years. I'm sure that's part of it.
As Mr. Fax said, there are times it would be much easier if we could just lie to one another, but our relationship doesn't work that way. It's called life. It's a roller coaster. Hold on tight. |
Outside of the fact that we have a couple of kids, my wife and I are just like you.
As for the OP, you are in a catch 22. Reading those text messages is a trust issue. On the other hand, there are 3 things that couples fight about at a fundamental level and one of those is family.
If she REALLY hates your family THAT much, I am afraid there isn't much of a chance she will ever be truly happy.
My advice, and I realize I am being brutally honest here, is that you guys aren't meant to be together. I would ditch her.