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Originally Posted by Lumpy
I should probably rephrase my answer. I don’t believe that ALL nice guys finish last, but sadly, some do. It depends on the situation, though.
For example:
Let’s say that you’re an average looking guy and you really like a chick that you consider to be “out of your league”, (btw, I hate that phrase, but I‘ll use it here for descriptive purposes). You’re always nice to her and she considers you to be a good friend. Sadly, you notice that she seems to only be interested in dating egotistical douchebags that treat her like shit. So, you choose not to pursue because you feel that you‘re not her type and you fear that you’ll be rejected. “Nice guy” finishes last in that scenario.
What “nice guy” doesn’t realize is that most, (but not all), women eventually get tired of “not-so-nice guy” and wish to find a “nice guy”. However, the problem with most “nice guys” is that they lack confidence, thus they’re not assertive enough to approach “out of their league“ chick.
It’s all about men having confidence, timing, and if the chemistry is right with the chick.
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I later learned the 'nice guy' problem I had in high school was more about being a pushover and a lack of confidence. Growing up in a really passive aggressive family where no one could ever make a decision on their own kind of set me back.
And after putting so much effort into not becoming my parents in that regard, I find it to be a really annoying quality when someone can't provide input or a real opinion, and will
always default to "I don't care" or "what do you want to do?" ...and sometimes I still think, damn, I really was annoying back then, huh?
