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Originally Posted by patteeu

I don't think we've been told anything to make us think she "keeps" attracting men who don't love her in a healthy fashion. If tooge said anything about his father being bad for his mother, I missed it.

Ok, I reread the paragraph. I thought the Mom was saying the father said that. Not the jerk boyfriend. My bad. Sorry.

However, I do think she could use therapy to find out why she is willing to accept her new boyfriend abusing her and, worse, trashing her previous husband and her previous life. Is he still an issue in this current relationship and if so, why? What did she tell the new BF to make him comfortable making those type of judgments. And if he's pulling them out of his ass (which is far more dangerous and abusive, IMO) then why is she letting him define her truth and her life like that?

I think that Tooge's most important goal right now is to keep the lines of communication open with his mother and remain in her 'circle of trust.' He does not want to do anything to jeopardize her not being honest about her situation because if she is isolated has no one she can trust her situation is not only abusive but DANGEROUS.