Life letting go - Page 2

Friendo · 09-17-2008, 09:39 PM

this one's hard to admit, but I have reached a point where I have to face the reality that I am guilty of being more or less "one of those" dads. I have coached my son in soccer since he was 6. he's now twelve, and we are at the point where they either fade or step it up. I have tried to take the middle road with him (and team) and achieve development, but have fun too. have tried in the past to "pawn him off" as I realize he's been spoiled playing for me, but he was having none of it. I enjoy coaching, but I admit I probably wouldn't do it/have done it, were it not for him. have enjoyed sharing that time with him, but I have to admit to some anger and disappointment at his decision not to be even reasonably dedicated to giving himself a chance at HS ball. It's a stark realization that I have "propped up" his interest for some time. I will add that he's my youngest, and typically a bit soft & spoiled. just needed to vent..I KNOW I shouldn't be depressed, but it somehow it feels like chopping off my hand.

anyone been on either side of this equation? abuser, or abusee?

Deberg_1990 · 09-17-2008, 10:37 PM

Theres always water polo

Taco John · 09-17-2008, 10:38 PM

Take comfort in knowing that your kid is doing the right thing. Soccor is only going to get him laughed at by the cool kids.

**luv** · 09-17-2008, 10:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bugeater

If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.

That was a tag line next to my login on my MSN Messenger at work for last week.

This week...

Can I go home? It's 5 o'clock somewhere.

kcxiv · 09-17-2008, 10:54 PM

My nephew is 10 years old and he's hell of dedicated to playing football. He's pretty good too, He plays DE and Tailback.

During football season, dude will not eat fast foods, cookies, cakes or anything. He has practice 2 hours a day 5 days a week. After practice he goes to the school around where i live and runs a mile and a half 6 times around the track. He's only 10 years old. I am buying his ass a Xbox for Xmas this year. I Never seen a kid so dedicated to being in shape at that age.

**Rain Man** · 09-18-2008, 05:00 PM

The bummer is that if he was really, really good and spent years honing his skills, he could have possibly turned pro and earned more than $18,000 per year.

09-17-2008, 09:39 PM
Friendo cigarette? Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: n.c. Casino cash: $10004945	letting go this one's hard to admit, but I have reached a point where I have to face the reality that I am guilty of being more or less "one of those" dads. I have coached my son in soccer since he was 6. he's now twelve, and we are at the point where they either fade or step it up. I have tried to take the middle road with him (and team) and achieve development, but have fun too. have tried in the past to "pawn him off" as I realize he's been spoiled playing for me, but he was having none of it. I enjoy coaching, but I admit I probably wouldn't do it/have done it, were it not for him. have enjoyed sharing that time with him, but I have to admit to some anger and disappointment at his decision not to be even reasonably dedicated to giving himself a chance at HS ball. It's a stark realization that I have "propped up" his interest for some time. I will add that he's my youngest, and typically a bit soft & spoiled. just needed to vent..I KNOW I shouldn't be depressed, but it somehow it feels like chopping off my hand. anyone been on either side of this equation? abuser, or abusee?
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09-17-2008, 10:37 PM	#16
Deberg_1990 In Search of a Life Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: San Antonio Tx. Casino cash: $234454	Theres always water polo __________________ Originally Posted by Cassel's Reckoning: Matt once made a very nice play in Seattle where he spun away from a pass rusher and hit Bowe off his back foot for a first down. One of the best plays Matt has ever made.
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09-17-2008, 10:38 PM	#17
Taco John Sapere Aude Join Date: Jun 2001 Casino cash: $537937	Take comfort in knowing that your kid is doing the right thing. Soccor is only going to get him laughed at by the cool kids. __________________ Ehyeh asher ehyeh. Donger's Razor: "The most establishment-friendly explanation that gives leftist and neocon politicians the most amount of cover is the only possible explanation, even when gaping holes and leaps of logic are required to get there."
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09-17-2008, 10:54 PM	#19
kcxiv In Search of a Life Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Central Valley, Cali Casino cash: $8697996	My nephew is 10 years old and he's hell of dedicated to playing football. He's pretty good too, He plays DE and Tailback. During football season, dude will not eat fast foods, cookies, cakes or anything. He has practice 2 hours a day 5 days a week. After practice he goes to the school around where i live and runs a mile and a half 6 times around the track. He's only 10 years old. I am buying his ass a Xbox for Xmas this year. I Never seen a kid so dedicated to being in shape at that age.
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09-18-2008, 05:00 PM	#20
Rain Man Seize life. Be an ermine. Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $-552449 VARSITY	The bummer is that if he was really, really good and spent years honing his skills, he could have possibly turned pro and earned more than $18,000 per year. __________________ Active fan of the greatest team in NFL history.
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