OT-Broken Heart?!

[jaa1025]

EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy!

Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues.

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How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

Summery of the happenings.

Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy.

About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead.

So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week.

Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left.

Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back.

Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch.

After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out.

Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life.

[Hammock Parties]

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[DaKCMan AP]

Antifreeze.

[Sully]

Early nomination for the Hall of Classics

[Rain Man]

Have you tried falling in love with a car?

Other than that, time heals all wounds.

[2112]

End all contact with said heart breaker and start looking for another one. even if you talk to other girls it helps, you don't necessarily have to **** them. but that wouldn't hurt either.

Good luck!

[2112]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

Have you tried falling in love with a car?

Other than that, time heals all wounds.

This is true, but it still hurts and takes a long time.

[jaa1025]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

Have you tried falling in love with a car?

Other than that, time heals all wounds.

I get bored with cars and trade them in every year...gets me in trouble! Although, I left my gas cap off on the way to the Gym after filling up....got me thinking....

Time does heal...I heard of some sort of electro shock that mimics a slight heart attack...but my heart is healthy...don't want to f*** that up too.

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by jaa1025

Although, I left my gas cap off on the way to the Gym after filling up....got me thinking....

This is the first step to moving on.

[jaa1025]

The thing that really gets me is that I ended it...why am I feeling this way. She was a hottie, treated me right, was in love with me...and then she got scared because of HER feelings. I tried to work it out, but she started pulling away and I didn't like the way things were going after that. She refused to talk about her feelings at all. Once she said, "I love you" to me...it went down hill from there. I didn't make it a big issue at all and I knew before she said it that she cared.


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[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by jaa1025

She was a hottie

Pics?

[Smed1065]

You were fine before they came along and you will be fine after they are gone. It just was not meant to be.

Timing has a lot to do with it.

[jaa1025]

Originally Posted by Dimension2112

End all contact with said heart breaker and start looking for another one. even if you talk to other girls it helps, you don't necessarily have to **** them. but that wouldn't hurt either.

Good luck!

Actually, this has helped a bit. It's been a week today, I still feel like crap but at least I'm not crying like a little school girl anymore. It gave me the courage to talk to one of the hottest girls I know at work and hit it off really well. Of course she won't sleep with me though....!@$!@ and doesn't date guys from work....it still helped a little talking to her...then when we said good bye's...SHE popped back in my head.

[Rausch]

Originally Posted by jaa1025

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

Yeah, not a solution I'd recomend.

I would recomend going on with your life. It's ok to feel like $#it. Hell, that's how you're going to feel most of your life anyway. Go on and do the things you enjoy doing and don't let feeling bad lead you to making stupid decisions...

[jaa1025]

Originally Posted by GOATSE

Pics?

Yeah I've got some...I don't want to post them yet until I know for a fact that it's over. I'm still holding hope...maybe the next text or call is from her....she doesn't read this board (colts fan...wtf) but I'm sure someone at her work does.