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May 1993 - June 2003
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prayer request: for my children
i have been contemplating wether or not to do this for quite some time and am still not too keen on spilling my guts out on this BB despite the fact that i feel there is a good sense of "community" here. i'm not an overly religious person and somewhat question the power of prayer, but if ever i needed support through prayer, now is that time. i have two beautiful children (daughter age 7, son age 5) and they really need your help/thoughts/prayers.
if any of you have been wondering where i have been or what i've been doing for the past couple months, here's the scoop... please bear with me as this is a LONG story. for the last 2 years, i have been battling my ex-wife for custody of my children. it has been an ugly UGLY fight both in terms of emotional (and financial) stress. my ex (from now on will be addressed as "asshole" for storytelling purposes) is a drug (coccaine, weed, pills, etc) abuser, physical abuser, and an emotional abuser. she lives with and associates with an ex-convict and his juvenile delinquent son. these two people also abuse my children when they are around them. examples of abuse you ask? honestly there are too many to list but i will give you a small sample. (i could seriously write a bible sized book about this.) not feeding the kids, not bathing the kids, not taking them to the doctor's when they are sick or injured, locking them out of the house in rain/snow/cold/night (in t-shirts and shorts) so they could do their drugs, hitting/kicking/beating the kids (i have pictures of bruises), stealing the kid's college funds for drug money, shooting the kids with bb guns, doing drugs in front of the kids, locking the kids in rooms unsupervised with porn movies in the dvd players, yelling/screaming at the kids, telling the kids they wished they were never born, making the kids drink beer, forcing the kids to be physically abusive to each other, threatening the kids, physically abusing the kid's pet dog in front of them to intimidate the kids (ie: i'm going to do this to YOU if you don't...) throwing out the kids birthday/x-mas presents that come from my house/family in front of them (usually after smashing them to bits), smoking (whatever) in front of them and then blowing it in their faces... *sigh* the list goes on... i'm sure you get the idea, so back to the story. prior to jan 1st of this year, my children were in asshole's physical custody and were subjected to all sorts of inappropriate or abusive behaviors (as noted above). i was only allowed to see them on weekends. after jan 1st, my children moved in with me and things drastically changed for them (obviously for the better) within 3 weeks of them living with me, all their teachers (from the private school i had them enrolled in) approached me and said they noticed a complete and positive change in the children's behavior, appearance, and academics. unbeknownst to me, asshole had approached the school and made up all sorts of BS lies and stories about me and none of the teachers would approach or speak with me (for the most part). luckily my son's teachers were some pretty sharp individuals (thanks so much for believing in me mrs. m and mrs. e !!) and pulled me aside prior to the children moving in with me and asked me about the situation. (apparently they had tried contacting asshole since the beginning of the year about my son's aggressive and inappropriate behaviors in class. they insisted that he get some type of counseling but were getting nowhere with asshole so turned to me.) i explained to them that i had been trying to get counseling for my children since the divorce, but was unable to get asshole to sign consent forms because she didn't want the children to talk about her, convict boyfriend, gangster son, or what was going on @ her house. this news disgusted them, so they told me some of the things that asshole had said about me and told me that they would try and help me get some counseling. a couple weeks later (after more unsuccessful attempts to get any response from asshole) i had an official school document DEMANDING counseling for my son and several teachers giving me full support to start some type of action. (they also contacted DSS on my children's behalf due to some of the things my children were telling their teachers at school). so, with support from the school, and DSS investigating asshole (finally) i decided to make my move and slam this b!tch. i contacted my attorney (who knew i was going to go for custody when i had some ammo), got the kids in with the counselor (i had been trying to get them in with for the last 2 yrs), and served asshole with my intent to sue for full custody. from there all hell broke loose. we have been to court at least 6 times in the last 4 months. been subjected to hardcore investigations by the courts and DSS, subjected to drug testing (i have passed all of them because i am CLEAN, while she has failed them... she came out 30 times (16000ng) over the limit (500ng) for coccaine) subjected to countless questioning (the same friggin questions over and over *groan*) by countless court agents (who never seem to pass prior investigation information along) and paid out so much money i've had to sell things and take out loans just to keep up. and this is far from over... just before our last court appearance (about 3 weeks ago) asshole took my daughter and threw her against a wall and subsequently put her in the hospital. she is out of the hospital now and doing much better. she won't suffer any permanent neurological damage according to the doctors, but didn't have any "marks" on her so the hospital couldn't prove (without reasonable doubt) that asshole did it to her. both my kids vehemently maintain that asshole did do this, but we have no hard proof. un-fucking-believeable. currently, i have been granted full physical and legal custody of my children. however, for some strange reason, asshole has been granted visitation rights (every other weekend) and "interim dinner visits" where she can take the kids every wednesday night for 3 hours. thankfully, my daughter (currently) doesn't have to go with asshole, but my son does. (so what fucking GOOD does it mean for me to have full custody if she has any contact with them??!!! someone please enlighten me on that one... i'm baffled...) at the very least has this change in custody brought about any positive changes? you bet! my kids are now in a new school, love it and are doing GREAT , they have new friends that they get to play with (their mother never let them go visit friends or have friends over because of the drugs... she even used to transport the drugs in their school backpacks... WTF??!!), they now have sleep overs, playdates, birthday parties (where no one smashes their gifts and/or throws them out), they have been begging to play sports and are now enrolled in and playing sports, get to see their counselor/therapist (whom they really dig...) on a weekly basis, and best of all, they are smiling and laughing again... it has been a long time since i've seen something so simple as a smile on their faces (how friggin sad THAT sh*t was... for a LONG time). it is truly a beautiful thing. it is my firm opinion that asshole should have no contact with my children whatsoever, but apparently the extremely liberal court system in my state doesn't agree with my assessments. (fuck!!) my attorney, on the other hand, is very pleased with current orders as this state is EXTREMELY biased towards women/mothers and fathers usually (99.9% of the time) get totally SHAFTED. at this point i feel i can attest to that. now asshole has shifted her tactics and is fucking with me with the only group of people who will still listen to her bullsh*t: DSS. she can't beat me in court so she's getting these dumb b4stards to fuck up our world. how is she getting them to listen to her? well, she tells them that i force my kids to watch porn, that i'm a porn addict and that i wank my hogan in front of my kids... she has also threatened my children to lie for her to support her claims. (nice) all her other claims (about me) to DSS have been thrown out as ridiculous, but this time she got their attention. i am now being investigated by these DSS dumbasses for 45 days. fuck!!! despite the fact that i have a lot of good people backing and supporting me (teachers, lawyers, counselors/therapists, doctors, neighbors, family members, etc..) and that my entire case is based in truth and fact and hers is based on lies and pure bullsh*t, we are going into court yet again for another "pre-trial" hearing this coming thursday the 28th of sept 2006. when will this end??!! members of chiefsplanet. i humbly ask for your support, thoughts and prayers in regards to this matter on behalf of my children, their safety, well-being and subsequent future(s). i have fought long and hard in this battle for them, and will continue to do so, but i am losing faith in this court system that won't close the door on this and continues to grant their fucked-up mother chances to manipulate and damage their chances of having any form of "normal" childhood. please keep my children in your thoughts and prayers this coming thursday. thank you. |
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09-22-2006, 08:36 PM
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my god man.you are in a tough spot there..
I give you alot of credit for keeping your cool..I might have lost it if I was in that situation.. I would document everything asshole does from now until kingdom comes..hopefully there are no lasting effects on your children.. god bless you and your kids man!!! |
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09-22-2006, 08:52 PM
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Wow, I feel for ya man. Keep up the good fight, those kids are worth it!
Something to think about, how difficult would it be to get asshole busted with all those drugs around the house? If she is sitting in the Pen she won't be harming the kids. Heck, it might even give her a chance to dry out and find herself. |
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09-22-2006, 08:53 PM
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Good luck to you and the kids. Hang tough.
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09-22-2006, 09:08 PM
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Dude i dont even know where to start, as parcells said i dont know that i would have been able to keep my cool, i might have wound up in jail where i would be totally useless=dont go that route as tempting as it is. All you can do is LOVE your kids to death, let'em know how much they mean to you EVERY DAY. I've got a 16 yr.old daughter and 15yr.old son who i get to see every other weekend and i tell them every day. Just remember that when they grow up they will KNOW who loves them and who they want to be around and that rotten bitch will prolly die a broken and LONELY woman. Just keep doing the right thing and you'll win. Godbless!!!
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09-22-2006, 09:09 PM
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Keep the faith what comes around goes around. Remember that to defeat the enemy you must find out what she does and sometime just call the cops to a suprise search warrent.
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09-22-2006, 09:12 PM
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DING we have a winner!!! seriously, prolly best for all involved ifn she did get busted. and actually dry out. will definately keep you'ns in prayer. |
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09-22-2006, 09:14 PM
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We got custody of my teenage girls 2 months ago and have to attend their mother's appearl next week. You can do it.
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09-22-2006, 09:15 PM
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Our legal system is entirely ****ed up when it comes to this stuff, I'll never understand why the men are always at such a disadvantage. The fact that DSS is entertaining accusations from someone with her background is disturbing as well.
I just hope all turns out well for you & your kids. |
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09-22-2006, 09:19 PM
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09-22-2006, 09:56 PM
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it's hard for a father to get full custody in missouri, real hard... whether it's a missouri or texas decree, congratulations...  you must have had one a hell of a good lawyer... congrats again... |
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09-22-2006, 10:16 PM
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loki...
congratulations for getting custody of your kids... i wouldn't worry too much about the court giving custody back to your ex... i mean asshole... once you've gotten custody based on the mother's behavior, the likelihood that she would regain custody s roughly equal to the likelihood that that i could fly away like a hummingbird any time soon... don't hold your breath... you've already won the war (custody), a few more skirmishes and it will all be over with, is my guess... |
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09-22-2006, 10:58 PM
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May 1993 - June 2003
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as far as keeping my cool, doesn't always work out so well. but to my credit, i'm not in jail for murder... YET. my current "fantasies" involve a bayonette, eviscerated intestines, and a victory dance in the gore to the tune of james brown's "i feel good"... documentation. been doing it since the divorce. the "volume" is huge and copies are in posession of the court investigator and my attorney. lasting effects? well, everytime my daughter sees asshole she pretty much shudders, makes wounded-animal noises and hides in her room. my son has been bribed and threatened to lie so much for asshole that he doesn't know the difference between truth and lie and when to tell what. *groan* thankfully they have a great therapist who understands them and is going to bat for them in court. as long as they can stay away from asshole they'll do fine. them being away from her for this long (even with the visitation) has done well by them, so i can only believe (hope?) that things will get better if custody remains this way. i appreciate your thoughts and well wishes. thank you. |
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