Money What is an acceptable age gap in dating?

TLO · 06-21-2021, 02:54 PM

I guess I didn't word my question the best. What is the largest age gap you feel is socially acceptable?

htismaqe · 06-21-2021, 02:56 PM

The older you get, the less the gap matters.

**DaFace** · 06-21-2021, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by htismaqe

The older you get, the less the gap matters.

Seems like I once heard a rule of "divide by 2 and add 7" as a good rule of thumb:

18 --> 16
24 --> 19
30 --> 22
40 --> 27
50 --> 32
60 --> 37
70 --> 42

Seems directionally reasonable at least.

oldman · 06-21-2021, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by DaFace

Seems like I once heard a rule of "divide by 2 and add 7" as a good rule of thumb:

18 --> 16
24 --> 19
30 --> 22
40 --> 27
50 --> 32
60 --> 37
70 --> 42

Seems directionally reasonable at least.

This is what I've always heard. That is unless you're Mick Jagger and then all bets are off.

**Rain Man** · 06-21-2021, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by oldman

This is what I've always heard. That is unless you're Mick Jagger and then all bets are off.

DaFace was using the shorthand rule. The full rule is

Your age/2 - number of gold albums + 7

oldman · 06-22-2021, 07:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rain Man

DaFace was using the shorthand rule. The full rule is

Your age/2 - number of gold albums + 7

You're right, I forgot the gold albums clause. But if I were single, I'd have to go with no one younger than my youngest kid.

GayFrogs · 06-22-2021, 04:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DaFace

Seems like I once heard a rule of "divide by 2 and add 7" as a good rule of thumb:

18 --> 16
24 --> 19
30 --> 22
40 --> 27
50 --> 32
60 --> 37
70 --> 42

Seems directionally reasonable at least.

Aziz ansari in parks and rec is where I heard this...it's weird how well it works

kccrow · 06-21-2021, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by htismaqe

The older you get, the less the gap matters.

Agree.

I do get the guys with the half plus 7 rule... but I really think it comes down to personal comfort level and ability to relate to one another intellectually and emotionally.

Even if you're 40, 27 can seem distant in terms of overall ability to connect and view things similarly. 50 and 32? There's an entire generational gap there practically, so the chances of the two of you being able to reconcile your differences on just about everything is going to be near nonexistent.

I'd say if you're less than 30, +/- 3 years. If you're between 30 and 40, +/- 5 years. If you're over 40, +/- 7 years. And really, if you're 70+, do whatever the **** you want because you don't have that much time left.

**gblowfish** · 06-21-2021, 02:56 PM

tmax63 · 06-21-2021, 02:58 PM

Depends on how old the younger person is. 4 yrs can be legally too much and 24 yrs could be perfectly acceptable.

htismaqe · 06-21-2021, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by tmax63

Depends on how old the younger person is. 4 yrs can be legally too much and 24 yrs could be perfectly acceptable.

Precisely.

If you're 16, dating a 12-year old is not cool.

But if you're 66 and you want to marry someone 40 years younger, it's perfectly fine.

Graystoke · 06-21-2021, 03:03 PM

The Half your age plus Seven:
A person should never date someone whose age is less than half their own plus seven years.

This rule of thumb has fell apart for me several times.
I've dated young, I've dated old. In my opinion keep it close to 3-5 years

AdolfOliverBush · 06-21-2021, 03:08 PM

For actually dating, as opposed to just ****ing, my rule was 10 years in either direction, tops. I was once set up with a 24-year-old...when I was 40, and she was far less mature than her age suggested. Even though it was legal, it felt very creepy.

It also didn't feel right banging women in their 50s who had grandkids, but I did anyway.

Sorce · 06-21-2021, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by AdolfOliverBush

For actually dating, as opposed to just ****ing, my rule was 10 years in either direction, tops. I was once set up with a 24-year-old...when I was 40, and she was far less mature than her age suggested. Even though it was legal, it felt very creepy.

It also didn't feel right banging women in their 50s who had grandkids, but I did anyway.

Grandmother ****er.

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