Life Signs of attraction - Page 5

**Rain Man** · 04-27-2005, 11:03 AM

Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you.

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428

Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you
By Matt Christensen

You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one.

Clue #1: She’s all decked out
What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman.

Clue #2: She licks her lips
What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.”

Clue #3: She tosses her hair
What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.”

Clue #4: Her feet face you
What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.”

Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t.

Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer.

So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them.

I'll start.

1. We keep adjusting our pants.

2. We take off our pants.

3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up.

4. We try to lick your lips.

badgirl · 04-27-2005, 01:47 PM

But then there are those relationships where you know each other for years and the "feelings" start creeping up on you and blindsides you before you know what happened. Those are my favorite.

mcan · 04-27-2005, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by badgirl

But then there are those relationships where you know each other for years and the "feelings" start creeping up on you and blindsides you before you know what happened. Those are my favorite.

If they could all be like this, then that would be awesome. But, unfortunately, most women fear these relationships because they tend to hurt more than the rest when they go sour. Also, it's hard to get most people to switch gears about attraction.

1. Think of a guy/girl that you are attracted to.

2. Now think of a guy/girl that you are indifferent to.

3. Now think ofa guy/girl that you are NOT attracted to.

Think about them again, and recognize in yourself the different feelings you get. Try to imagine what that guy or girl in #1 did to give you those feelings. Can you imagine a world or set of circumstances where the guy or girl in #2 could make you feel the same way? How much more would the guy or girl in #3 have to do? Is it even possible?

Awesome thread BTW... I'm going to start giving out some rep...

**CosmicPal** · 04-27-2005, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by badgirl

But then there are those relationships where you know each other for years and the "feelings" start creeping up on you and blindsides you before you know what happened. Those are my favorite.

I have news for you- those weren't "feelings" They were baseball bats.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by CosmicPal

When I'm at a bar and shooting pool. If I see a gal looking at me and I'm waiting for my turn to shoot pool. I'll hold the pool cue upright and stroke the cue up and down and smile at the girl. If she returns a smile, all is well I'll be going home with her.

Well, it's better than sticking your foot out....

Aren't you a little old for bar hopping?

**CosmicPal** · 04-27-2005, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ENDelt260

Is that what my problem with women is--- oooh, look a quarter!

No, I think you might have attention defic OH hey, let's go get drunk.

**CosmicPal** · 04-27-2005, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Aren't you a little old for bar hopping?

Don't you have little Star Wars figurines to go play with?

mcan · 04-27-2005, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by CosmicPal

Not exactly true. If you look at Madonna's earlier pictures BEFORE she became a household name, you will see an average looking Midwestern girl. What Madonna did have was a super inflated ego. She wanted to be bigger than Marilyn Monroe and in the beginning emulated that Marilyn persona to a Tee...and then she became hot.

The actual "1-10" scale is a slading scale. For some people, Madonna is a 10. For me, she's more like a 7. Either way, she believes she is a 10. That's why she goes after what she wants. My point was, with this type of girl, you don't hurt yourself by calling her beautiful. It's just like agreeing with her. Just like if she said, "hey this shirt is green," and you said "Yes it is." Only it's about her looks.

With most hot girls, this isn't how it works. (see below).

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by CosmicPal

Don't you have little Star Wars figurines to go play with?

Don't avoid the question....

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by mcan

The actual "1-10" scale is a slading scale. For some people, Madonna is a 10. For me, she's more like a 7. Either way, she believes she is a 10. That's why she goes after what she wants. My point was, with this type of girl, you don't hurt yourself by calling her beautiful. It's just like agreeing with her. Just like if she said, "hey this shirt is green," and you said "Yes it is." Only it's about her looks.

With most hot girls, this isn't how it works. (see below).

Obviously I am screwed.

mcan · 04-27-2005, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Obviously I am screwed.

If you're getting screwed, then I need to rethink my strategy...

**CosmicPal** · 04-27-2005, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Don't avoid the question....

And I suppose you aren't avoiding your question?

Well, if you must know Sherlock- I don't "bar-hop" anymore. "Bar-hopping" is for twenty-somethings before they get married. I DO however go to a bar a couple of times a week, if not more- but, I do so 'cause I'm still single and more importantly 'cause I happen to shoot in a pool league two nights a week. I also play in a softball league, and we hit a bar afterwards.

Now, do you care to explain your GI Joe set to us?

**Rain Man** · 04-27-2005, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Don't avoid the question....

He's old, but he's very, very immature. It averages out to barhopping age.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by CosmicPal

And I suppose you aren't avoiding your question?

Well, if you must know Sherlock- I don't "bar-hop" anymore. "Bar-hopping" is for twenty-somethings before they get married. I DO however go to a bar a couple of times a week, if not more- but, I do so 'cause I'm still single and more importantly 'cause I happen to shoot in a pool league two nights a week. I also play in a softball league, and we hit a bar afterwards.

Now, do you care to explain your GI Joe set to us?

I see...that would explain it then.

I don't play with action figures.

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:17 PM

This can be easily simplified.

Treat the Hoooor like a Q
and the Q like a hooooor

and your batting average will be around .350 with a great slugging percentage if you don't have a lazy eye or hump on your back.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by mcan

If you're getting screwed, then I need to rethink my strategy...

You know what I mean. I'm like the Kawika Mitchell of the dating game...no instincts.

04-27-2005, 11:03 AM
Rain Man Seize life. Be an ermine. Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $-462449 VARSITY	Signs of attraction Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you. http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428 Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you By Matt Christensen You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one. Clue #1: She’s all decked out What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman. Clue #2: She licks her lips What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.” Clue #3: She tosses her hair What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.” Clue #4: Her feet face you What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.” Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t. Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer. So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them. I'll start. 1. We keep adjusting our pants. 2. We take off our pants. 3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up. 4. We try to lick your lips.
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