Life Signs of attraction - Page 7

**Rain Man** · 04-27-2005, 11:03 AM

Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you.

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428

Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you
By Matt Christensen

You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one.

Clue #1: She’s all decked out
What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman.

Clue #2: She licks her lips
What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.”

Clue #3: She tosses her hair
What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.”

Clue #4: Her feet face you
What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.”

Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t.

Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer.

So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them.

I'll start.

1. We keep adjusting our pants.

2. We take off our pants.

3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up.

4. We try to lick your lips.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by ENDelt260

Clearly she didn't recognize the god among men standing before her.

You do know that you are not the guy in your avatar, right?

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:28 PM

gochiefs.........I'll caution you on your use of the Prick button....I don't think you should do that without a governor on the carb...

you should start out, by being nice to the gals that other guys ignore, or aren't nice too. Seriously.

Build confidence.

Every man who has ever asked a woman out has been denied. Sometimes Brutally. Walk it off and move on. I guarantee, if you're not a complete prick, and have reasonable expectations, and ask 10 women you've never met, on a date.....one will go.

All bullshit aside, the best thing that could happen to you would be a 35 year old, newly divorced woman.

Simplex3 · 04-27-2005, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by ENDelt260

I dunno about that. I wouldn't put it past gochiefs to get robbed by one and not get any puss.

Wait, that isnt' funny.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Simplex3

"If you walk down the street asking every girl to f**k you'll get slapped a lot but you'll get laid a lot too."

It's so true.

Not that I recommend that technique exactly, but once you find the balls to go up to any woman and have a chat, you'll find you'll get a lot more positive responses. It's just like anything else. You are more likely to hit a home run in 500 at-bats than in one. You're more likely to get a great photo if you snap five rolls of one subject than one.

You gotta get the balls to just go give it a try. And then you gotta get over the rejection and walk up to the next one. Do it enough times, you're Wilt Chamberlin.

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:30 PM

You're all just jealous, cause I've been chatting with babes online all day.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iowanian

gochiefs.........I'll caution you on your use of the Prick button....I don't think you should do that without a governor on the carb...

you should start out, by being nice to the gals that other guys ignore, or aren't nice too. Seriously.

Build confidence.

Every man who has ever asked a woman out has been denied. Sometimes Brutally. Walk it off and move on. I guarantee, if you're not a complete prick, and have reasonable expectations, and ask 10 women you've never met, on a date.....one will go.

I have no doubt...as far as being a prick I am not really capable of that.

Governor on the carb?

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:31 PM

I mean I don't think you have a volume control on what the acceptable decible level of Prickdom would be, to still maintain a reasonable chance of success.

luv2nite is looking for a mandongo.....IM the chic and use your Mojo. You'll be on a moped, heading to III's house to shag in no time.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 02:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iowanian

gochiefs.........I'll caution you on your use of the Prick button....I don't think you should do that without a governor on the carb...

you should start out, by being nice to the gals that other guys ignore, or aren't nice too. Seriously.

Build confidence.

Every man who has ever asked a woman out has been denied. Sometimes Brutally. Walk it off and move on. I guarantee, if you're not a complete prick, and have reasonable expectations, and ask 10 women you've never met, on a date.....one will go.

All bullshit aside, the best thing that could happen to you would be a 35 year old, newly divorced woman.

I agree with this completely, too. First, learn to punch your own weight. Go for the girls the other guys aren't. They're easy targets. That's not meant to be rude, but it's true. They're not as used to being hit on and they're more likely to be flattered by it. You'll build up your confidence, and get laid in the process. You'll also get rejected in the process, and you'll learn how to deal with it.

You don't have to punch your own weight forever, but if you can't punch your own weight, you definitely can't take on the heavyweight champion of the world.

(Not that I'm into the heavyweights).

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 02:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iowanian

You're all just jealous, cause I've been chatting with babes online all day.

Besides, we both know I'm training to be a cagefighter.

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ENDelt260

badgirl says you're a loser.

She's just jealous because I type 65 wpm with my tongue.....

As for attraction of chics........I always found laughter to be the best antidote for buttons and victoria's secret elastic.

Simplex3 · 04-27-2005, 02:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jcroft

It's so true.

Not that I recommend that technique exactly, but once you find the balls to go up to any woman and have a chat, you'll find you'll get a lot more positive responses. It's just like anything else. You are more likely to hit a home run in 500 at-bats than in one. You're more likely to get a great photo if you snap five rolls of one subject than one.

You gotta get the balls to just go give it a try. And then you gotta get over the rejection and walk up to the next one. Do it enough times, you're Wilt Chamberlin.

Agreed. The best "secret" I ever developed was to go up, start a conversation about something that was happening in the same room, then after 3 to 5 minutes say "great to meet you" and walk away. 25% of the time they'd come ask you out later, 25% of the time you could "accidentally" bump into them later and ask them out. Hell, I'd frequently have one of their friends come ask me out after I'd walked away.

The rest of the time I found out by chatting I wasn't interrested or figured I was playing out of my league. If you go in with no pressure on yourself other than to have a conversation it's easier to get the balls up.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Simplex3

Agreed. The best "secret" I ever developed was to go up, start a conversation about something that was happening in the same room, then after 3 to 5 minutes say "great to meet you" and walk away. 25% of the time they'd come ask you out later, 25% of the time you could "accidentally" bump into them later and ask them out. Hell, I'd frequently have one of their friends come ask me out after I'd walked away.

The rest of the time I found out by chatting I wasn't interrested or figured I was playing out of my league. If you go in with no pressure on yourself other than to have a conversation it's easier to get the balls up.

Yeah, that's a good technique, and perfect for bars. See a girl you like at the bar? Go get a drink. Stand next to her. Chat it up about anything that comes to mind. See what you think. Tell her it was nice to meet her and walk away.

Like you said -- they often come back looking for you later. Or you see them later and have a good reason to say hi and chat again (you already met). And if neither happens, you didn't lose anything but a few minutes at the bar -- and you got a drink, so even that was worth it.

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:53 PM

I can't wait until kcchiefsman weighs in on this subject. I'll take notes.

**Rain Man** · 04-27-2005, 02:54 PM

I think the only surefire way to attract women is to be rich.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:54 PM

I have a couple chat logs with a chick I met on plentyoffish.com...anyone want to "critique" them?

04-27-2005, 11:03 AM
Rain Man Seize life. Be an ermine. Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $-452449 VARSITY	Signs of attraction Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you. http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428 Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you By Matt Christensen You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one. Clue #1: She’s all decked out What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman. Clue #2: She licks her lips What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.” Clue #3: She tosses her hair What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.” Clue #4: Her feet face you What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.” Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t. Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer. So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them. I'll start. 1. We keep adjusting our pants. 2. We take off our pants. 3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up. 4. We try to lick your lips.
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