Personal advice sought, v. II.

[Direckshun]

Originally Posted by stumppy

You would never be in this situation if you took responsibility for who you choose to be friends with.

I have no idea what this means.

[kcxiv]

Originally Posted by Direckshun

I have no idea what this means.

He's basically saying you pick bad friends or someshit, which is total bullshit.

I said before i was in a situation similar with my best friend who i have been best friends with since we were 13 years old. We are now 32. about 3 years ago i was going through some pretty bad health issues and every single day my "bad, adulterer" friend was one of the few that would come even check up on me. Actually, he would come at lunch to check on me and after work. Me and him have been through alot in our almost 20 years as friends. I am glad i picked him as a friend. Yep, same cheating friend, one of the very few that stood behind me when my life was in a bad bad bad spot.

[Cormac]

Without reading all the replies - don't take the consensus of the board as what you should literally do. I know people have good points to make and are trying to help, but in the end nobody understands the friendships/situation/repercussions involved for any of the parties. If you feel that you really need to talk to the husband and let him know that people know what's going on - then do it. But I would do it discreetly, without threatening him that you'll tell his wife. After all, it's still his life and he has to run it. But IMO you'd be doing him a favour by letting him know it's not a secret.

Am I right in assuming that your fiancee knows what is going on?