Are any Planeteers stay at home dads?

[pikesome]

Any one out there stay at home with the kids? Due to our recent move to the KC area for my wife's new job, I have found myself a stay at home dad (AKA House-husband). Watching the little one while his older brother is at school is a bit of a change from working all day but all in all not a bad change. Just way more cartoons than I'm used to. Discuss.

[Chiefs Express]

I was the house husband for about 18 months in the early 90's. It wasn't fun and the other half of the equation still felt like she was working two full time jobs.

It didn't matter what I did, it wasn't enough. But then I concentrated on the "guy" stuff you do at home. Paint the house, inside and out, fix whatever needed to be fixed and attempt, notice I said attempt, to clean the house. Turns out I suck as a house cleaner, but that is somewhat expected for someone with my background.

[StcChief]

NFW would I have done that.

Go luck SAH dads, glad it's you and not me.

[mike_b_284]

Originally Posted by SLAG02

We work as a Team im not "Whipped" we just respect eachothers wishes

Im at JCCC still....

Whatever helps you sleep at night.

[NewChief]

Originally Posted by Chiefs Express

It didn't matter what I did, it wasn't enough. But then I concentrated on the "guy" stuff you do at home. Paint the house, inside and out, fix whatever needed to be fixed and attempt, notice I said attempt, to clean the house. Turns out I suck as a house cleaner, but that is somewhat expected for someone with my background.

That's probably the most frustrating part about it. Unless my wife actually does the work, she doesn't feel like the house is clean. I could completely scrub and clean the house while she's gone for a day, and she'd still think it was dirty unless she did it. We both know this, so you'd think that the answer would be just to let her do all the housecleaning. Unfortunately that "solution" doesn't appear to be to her liking.

[007]

Originally Posted by NewChief

That's probably the most frustrating part about it. Unless my wife actually does the work, she doesn't feel like the house is clean. I could completely scrub and clean the house while she's gone for a day, and she'd still think it was dirty unless she did it. We both know this, so you'd think that the answer would be just to let her do all the housecleaning. Unfortunately that "solution" doesn't appear to be to her liking.

They always have that need to tell you "how to do it". I just tell her how to clean now. She doesn't bug me about it anymore.

[pikesome]

Originally Posted by NewChief

That's probably the most frustrating part about it. Unless my wife actually does the work, she doesn't feel like the house is clean. I could completely scrub and clean the house while she's gone for a day, and she'd still think it was dirty unless she did it. We both know this, so you'd think that the answer would be just to let her do all the housecleaning. Unfortunately that "solution" doesn't appear to be to her liking.

I've got a leg up on most in this regard. I enjoy cooking more than my wife does and 4 years in the Navy gave me the desire and the ability to keep the house clean. It also helps that she's not overly anal about the state of the house. Toddlers ensure that no house stays clean long.

[Inspector]

My job often has me working when I'm at home. Seems my job is pretty much 24 x 7 whether I'm in the office or at home.

And when I'm at home, I often take care of one or more of my grankids since my wife sort of provides full time day care to help out our kids and their wives.

eh...guess that don't count for much of anything....

[Chiefs Express]

Originally Posted by NewChief

That's probably the most frustrating part about it. Unless my wife actually does the work, she doesn't feel like the house is clean. I could completely scrub and clean the house while she's gone for a day, and she'd still think it was dirty unless she did it. We both know this, so you'd think that the answer would be just to let her do all the housecleaning. Unfortunately that "solution" doesn't appear to be to her liking.

That solution is a lose lose situation. I gave up and got another job.

[TNTEICHER]

I supported my wife while she got a Masters degree in Psychology. When she got into medical school after that I started staying home with our 1st daughter. Well now two more kids later and I'm still at home. I have two in school and a 20 month old. It was my wife's idea that I stay home in the first place but I sure damn sure didn't expect to be at home 8 years later. I haven't worked in so long I don't know what I'm qualified to do.

[sedated]

Originally Posted by NewChief

That's probably the most frustrating part about it. Unless my wife actually does the work, she doesn't feel like the house is clean. I could completely scrub and clean the house while she's gone for a day, and she'd still think it was dirty unless she did it. We both know this, so you'd think that the answer would be just to let her do all the housecleaning. Unfortunately that "solution" doesn't appear to be to her liking.

tell that ungrateful b!tch to get her ass on the floor and scrub, and while she's down there...

[pikesome]

Originally Posted by TNTEICHER

I supported my wife while she got a Masters degree in Psychology. When she got into medical school after that I started staying home with our 1st daughter. Well now two more kids later and I'm still at home. I have two in school and a 20 month old. It was my wife's idea that I stay home in the first place but I sure damn sure didn't expect to be at home 8 years later. I haven't worked in so long I don't know what I'm qualified to do.

Well, since full-time child care cost about $800-$1000 a month here, you can look at it as your earning that much just taking care of the kids.

[chiefs4me]

Originally Posted by pikesome

Well, since full-time child care cost about $800-$1000 a month here, you can look at it as your earning that much just taking care of the kids.

Where do you live? I have my son in a private christian school for pre-k, he is 4 and it's mon-fri and only 325.00 a month....... 800-1000 I have never heard of that...... hell you should open a daycare..

[TNTEICHER]

Originally Posted by chiefs4me

Where do you live? I have my son in a private christian school for pre-k, he is 4 and it's mon-fri and only 325.00 a month....... 800-1000 I have never heard of that...... hell you should open a daycare..

Dude that is cheap. I was paying that for a child to go twice a week.

[Inspector]

Originally Posted by TNTEICHER

Dude that is cheap. I was paying that for a child to go twice a week.

(psssst...that would be "dudette". She's a foxy internet girl.)

[bogie]

Originally Posted by pikesome

I've got a leg up on most in this regard. I enjoy cooking more than my wife does and 4 years in the Navy gave me the desire and the ability to keep the house clean. It also helps that she's not overly anal about the state of the house. Toddlers ensure that no house stays clean long.

Yea my wife grew up with a mother that was over the top when it came to cleaning, so she's pretty relaxed about the whole cleaning thing. We have a house cleaner that comes twice a month and between her visits, except for picking up clutter, we pretty much let it go. Thank goodness for dishwashers.