Do you / Will you Spank your Kids?

[SLAG]

Simple...

If you are an parent do/did you spank your children

if you plan to be a parent will you spank your children?


What say you?

[Warrior5]

I spanked both of my sons, two times each, between the ages of 2 and 4. Each time was a single bare-handed swat to the butt, hard. After the tears ended, I explained exactly why.

[Inspector]

My sons range from the ages of 25 to 33 and each is bigger than me.

Um, no. I don't do any spanking. Of them, that is.

[King_Chief_Fan]

spare the rod and spoil the child.

Be careful how one intereprets that. I don't think that means literally take a stick and smack them. I think it means when their is a childish indiscretion you teach them, when it is willful disobedience you do the same, however, you may need to swat the rear end. A single swat on the rear is more than enough. If you do more than that, I think you are really angry and you shouldn't be smacking their rear.

Both of my children are now grown. I have had to spank each of them only twice. I hated it, but, I grew as a parent and my children learned.

It worked for us anyway.

[Wrasse]

I doubt I'll spank my children...a swat on the butt to get them going maybe but time out and the right tone works so much better with my nephew and other children I've been around. I'm not one to judge though...we were spanked as children (my sis and I) and it was just fine...like some have stated...not out of anger and not to injure/hurt the child. It's more a demonstration or something to get their attention/shake them up a bit.

I still wish they took paddles to kids in their teens in grade school...those are the kids who need it. Then again, my wife teaches in one of the more thuggy school districts around Dallas, TX, and she ends up being more of a parent to those kids than their own flesh and blood. Sad.

Back in the day, we got our asses swatted in school by coaches if we weren't doing well in school...they'd line up and all have a shot at you...some would even get a running start. It kept the athletes in line and making decent grades.

[Simplex3]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

I think if a new step-parent touched my child with a belt, I'd ruin his shit.

Amen. They'd find his corpse with a belt shoved up his ass.

[Amnorix]

Originally Posted by Over-Head

Well the wife is 5 day’s over due, so ask me next week. LOL


My mother used to carry a wooden spoon in her purse and WAS NOT SCARED to use it ANYWHERE ANY TIME!(My mother was also a bitch, and should NEVER have had kids, perhaps it’s the religious hang up’s she faced)
I remember a good many times she would be wailing away at me saying crap like
"Jehovah doesn’t tolerate bad children so I’m doing this for your own good"
I SHIT YOU NOT!!!!!!!
My old man would tear off his belt in a hartbeat (at my mothers urging) and swing it 3 times, as long as you cried on the second he stoipped at 3.
Again, utterng some retoric bullcrap of "What do you think the "elders" would say of they knew you did this/that?"

I think all of us in our 20s-40s know people that dont', and never will have kids, and they're fine iwth it. For our parent's generation, that was very odd, especially if they had more than two nickels to rub together.

Every once in a while my wife and I will be talking about some couple we know, or just met, and she'll say "it's a shame they don't have kids, they could afford it" blah, blah, blah.

My response is always the same -- if a person doesn't think they should have kids, they're probably right.

Being a parent is far and away the toughest job I've ever had. The most rewarding too, but the toughest. If you're actively opposed to being a parent, but get forced into it by circumstances or by peer pressure, that won't help when you're dealing with the crying baby at 3:00 a.m.

[kaplin42]

When I do have kids, yes I will spank them. Never full force, and only up to a certain age.

The biggest issue I see today is parents don't discipline their children at all, and I will be damned if I'm gonna be the parent who's kid is running around the resteraunt screaming and yelling, annoying the rest of the customers while I sit their and pretend nothing is going on.

And yes, that look, with a certain tone in your voice will work wonders n a kid.

[Simplex3]

We swat our kids when we are facing something that we don't have the time to get them to learn it for themselves, like walking out in the street or hanging off the banister 12 feet above a tile floor. Only when it can result in severe injury/death and the kid is demonstrating an unwillingness to listen.

Since we use it so rarely, we don't have to hit them with enough force to even leave a mark. The simple fact that dad just took them by the arm and swatted their little butt is scary enough.

[crazycoffey]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

I will when its necessary. I think the fact that a parent proves they WILL do it, makes it less necessary when used as an option for their choice to behave. "would you rather stop doing that, or get a boost?"

I think if a new step-parent touched my child with a belt, I'd ruin his shit.

it is part of my counter suit

so is the parts about my ex leaving them at home alone (9 and 7) I had a hard time to prove this, just comments by the youngest and how he is developing a fear of being left alone. but my mom went to visit them last weekend and they answered the door with no one else there. 45 mins later the step-dad showed up. Moms is ready to go to bat on my behalf. there are so many other things going on too. My ex cusses me in front of them, it's getting real disgraceful.

She skipped on a christmas visit, I had plane tickets and everything even went to pick them up, she hid like the cockroach she is. I hope the judge throws the book at her.

[Eleazar]

I got spanked as a kid and I turned out ok.

Most of the people I know who got into trouble with the law or at school or in relationships were people who (a) had absent fathers, or (b) had parents who let them do whatever they wanted.

I'll definitely spank. But I think when a kid gets to a certain age it stops being effective and the better thing is taking away stuff they like rather than physical correction.

[wutamess]

My 9 yo girl... rarely have to.
My 2 yo girl... maybe 3 times a week.
My 1 yo boy turning 2... Damn near every five minutes. The boy is stubborn and hard headed just like I was when I was a kid. He gets it honest.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by bkkcoh

Why do you wish you hadn't?

Because looking back on it, I think it was unnecessary. For MY kids, I can't speak as to anyone else's.

[Chiefnj]

Originally Posted by Simplex3

The simple fact that dad just took them by the arm and swatted their little butt is scary enough.

Therein lies the difference. There is a difference between spanking to cause pain and spanking as more of a "scare" tactic.

[HolyHandgernade]

I don't think its a one answer fits all type of thing. I have a 16 year old daughter and a 7 year old son and we have never had to spank either one. Maybe that's just lucky, but we like to think it has a bit to do with the nature of the child and some damn fine parenting techniques!

We lay out our expectations, discuss proper ettiquette, reward with privilages, punish with restricting or removing them, and most behavioral problems are shot down with nothing more than a warning glance meant to convey that if they continue on this line, reprecussions will follow. As long as we're consistant, they know wherer the line is. We have had very little of the teenage rebellion, in fact, we get along great with her. Our son seems to be following the same path, but we are no so naive as to think nothing will trip up our happy little paradise. We just believe as long as we remain consistant and teach them how to think for themselves, the better prepared they will be to do so when such dilemas arise.

So, our philosophy has been never to spank, but it is just our philosophy. I've seen some other kids who if they were mine, I would have spanked them for their behavior. So, is that the hyper nature of the child, or some bad initial techniques by the parents which led to the more difficult to control behavior now? Always probably somewhere in between, I just believe by setting the proper expectations and rewards/punishment for disciplined behavior early often relieves the need to spank later. Just my experience.

-HH

[DJ_is_the_realdeal]

Thats what is wrong with these kids now. The power is taking away from the parent and kids have to much control. Kids should get their ass whooped that way they no their boundries. When I look back at all the beatings I got, I deserved them.