Do you / Will you Spank your Kids?

[SLAG]

Simple...

If you are an parent do/did you spank your children

if you plan to be a parent will you spank your children?


What say you?

[bkkcoh]

Originally Posted by Brock

Because looking back on it, I think it was unnecessary. For MY kids, I can't speak as to anyone else's.

How old where they at the time that you did spank them?

Do you think the spanking had any impact on thier behavior after and is that why you didn't think it was needed?

[MichaelH]

Hell Yes! But only when utterly necessary which is almost everday for 9 and 3 year old boys.

[wutamess]

Originally Posted by DJ_is_the_realdeal

Thats what is wrong with these kids now. The power is taking away from the parent and kids have to much control. Kids should get their ass whooped that way they know their boundries. When I look back at all the beatings I got, I deserved them.

I agree but you're going to lose credibility with people by mispelling "know". I deserved every beating I got and I appreciate them to this day. I remember my mother telling me one day when I was little that she was proud of me because I dind't get a whooping that day. Boy did that make my life. I remember it as if if was yesterday and that must've been over 25 years ago.

It's things like that you remember. Hell 2nd grade I was in the principles office everyday standing in the corner (no exxageration). 2nd grade teacher died of a heart attack. 4th grade teacher had a stroke. Not bragging but I think I had something to do with those. So I KNOW I deserved those beatings and probably more.

[Iowanian]

My mother invented Time Out a LONG time before it was cool.


It was called "Sit on that step until your dad gets home to spank you".

I could take a spanking at an early age. I remember trying to flex my butt thinking it would "hurt" their hands.

I deserved most of them, and they probably were good for me in the big picture. I had chores that were far worse punishment though.


I was paddled in elementary school a couple of times, and went through a spell in Jr High where a dickhole science teacher thought it was pretty funny to whack myself and another kid with a paddle pretty regularly in the front of the class.....that was pretty funny for him, until he did it to the daughter of someone "important" and hit her in the kidneys and left a bruise.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by bkkcoh

How old where they at the time that you did spank them?

Do you think the spanking had any impact on thier behavior after and is that why you didn't think it was needed?

Probably under the age of 5, I would guess. I think now, as a very experienced parent, I can see now that my kids were very well-behaved and spanking them or the fear of a spanking really didn't have anything to do with it. Also, seeing a lot of very much not-well-behaved kids who I know are spanked regularly leads me to believe it's not an effective parenting tool.

[Wile_E_Coyote]

No, by all means do not spank your child, so I can hear them whine & cry in public.

[BigRedChief]

Originally Posted by MichaelH

Hell Yes! But only when utterly necessary which is almost everday for 9 and 3 year old boys.

UH. Everyday but its utterly necessary. I don't think your plan is working.

[Que Card QB]

I always thought I would but after seeing the results of raising a puppy with the "positive reinforcement" method, I don't think I will. I now believe you can more effectively discipline children with praise for the good things they do, than punishment for the bad things they do.
And some will say, "Well a child is not a dog" and they're correct, yet I think it's fair to take from Pavlov a thing or two about conditioning, no? *Ring, ring*

[crazycoffey]

Originally Posted by Que Card QB

I always thought I would but after seeing the results of raising a puppy with the "positive reinforcement" method, I don't think I will. I now believe you can more effectively discipline children with praise for the good things they do, than punishment for the bad things they do.
And some will say, "Well a child is not a dog" and they're correct, yet I think it's fair to take from Pavlov a thing or two about conditioning, no? *Ring, ring*

Good luck, I hope it works for you, I really do.

[BigRedChief]

Originally Posted by Brock

Probably under the age of 5, I would guess. I think now, as a very experienced parent, I can see now that my kids were very well-behaved and spanking them or the fear of a spanking really didn't have anything to do with it. Also, seeing a lot of very much not-well-behaved kids who I know are spanked regularly leads me to believe it's not an effective parenting tool.

I don't think spanking or not to spank will work the same for everyone. I have one of the most strong willed, stubborn 14 years old on the face of the planet. He is not a problem child at school or at home and he was never spanked. But the results may be different for the next kid.

[crazycoffey]

Children are closer to "animal instincts" than they are to "social behavior". I just think there is a balance to raising my children. I don't want to be an animal with them, but just talking and that isn't always going to work either. So you sometimes have to call into play the alpha dog rule, which has extisted longer than Pavlov's theorey.

[Mr. Plow]

Originally Posted by wutamess

My 1 yo boy turning 2... Damn near every five minutes. The boy is stubborn and hard headed just like I was when I was a kid. He gets it honest.

I've got one of those too.

[MichaelH]

Originally Posted by BigRedChief

UH. Everyday but its utterly necessary. I don't think your plan is working.

Your definition of spanking and mine may be different. I by no means hit hard or attempt to inflict pain nor do I beat my children. But I will and do get their attention when their behavior isn't acceptable.

[StcChief]

I did when needed.

[kc rush]

I haven't had to yet, but I will if "the crime" warrants it. I look at it as a last resort.