Do you / Will you Spank your Kids?

[SLAG]

Simple...

If you are an parent do/did you spank your children

if you plan to be a parent will you spank your children?


What say you?

[wutamess]

Originally Posted by Groves

I'm just not sure how taps on pampers or other non-pain spankings actually break a child's will.

It's an incentive that says there's more where that came from without having to totally "kill an ant with a sledge hammer" unless they don't get the "tickle the whale with a grain of salt warning".

[Warrior5]

Originally Posted by stevieray

"Do you want me to get the belt?"

"we had never seen the belt. we had only heard about it...

...the belt was eight feet wide...nine feet long...
and had hooks on it that would rip the meat off your body when it hit you...."

Classic Bill Cosby! "Russell, My Brother, Who I Slept With".

[Groves]

Originally Posted by wutamess

It's an incentive that says there's more where that came from without having to totally "kill an ant with a sledge hammer" unless they don't get the "tickle the whale with a grain of salt warning".

Ah. Yes. Totally agree. Great point.

I think what a lot of us are pondering when we see a lot of parenting is.....IS there more where that came from, or is the tap tap all they'll ever get. I don't need to know. For sure the kids will figure it out on their own.

[Pants]

Originally Posted by Cochise

I got spanked as a kid and I turned out ok.

Most of the people I know who got into trouble with the law or at school or in relationships were people who (a) had absent fathers, or (b) had parents who let them do whatever they wanted.

I'll definitely spank. But I think when a kid gets to a certain age it stops being effective and the better thing is taking away stuff they like rather than physical correction.

Ditto. Except I think my parents utilized the guilt trip more than the taking things away part as I got older and it seemed to work. I was never really a troublemaker.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Jenson71

That would be weird spanking your daughter. Really, it would be weird having a daughter. If I had one, I don't think I'd ever do anything to it. Not even talk to it.

So it wouldn't be any different than the relationship you have with any other women.

[Jenson71]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

So it wouldn't be any different than the relationship you have with any other women.

I don't have any comeback for that.

[RJ]

My experience has been that most people are experts in how to raise other people's children.

"If that were my child, I'd......"

Something else I find amusing is that people will always say that unruly kids need a spanking but you also always hear people shocked when they see a kid actually get one. "She gave that little girl a spanking, right there in the store. I almost called the cops".

Parenting is a tough job. As parents, all we can do is use our best judgement. As I once told my sons, it's like being the President. You try to make the right decisions but you probably won't know how you did until about 20 years later.....if you live that long.

I've spanked my 14 year old maybe twice in her life, she aims to please her parents. The 13 year old is a slow and defiant learner. She's been whooped more times than I can count. They're both pretty good teenagers now so both methods are obviously effective.

My wife (different mother) didn't want to spank our 3 year old daughter, in fact she made it a point to fight against it. I agreed to refrain and re-evaluate at the age of two. Two came and went without a need to re-evaluate - she's done pretty well. When she turned 3 she started throwing pretty ridiculous fits. It was then that I started popping her butt without discussing it with Mom - Mom saw what was happening and a discussion wasn't even necessary. She knew a butt smacking was. So, my youngest has been spanked probably <5x but it has been a pretty effective tool in the arsenal of parenting techniques.

[bogie]

I was spanked as a kid. I remember one specifically which was done with a yard stick rather than the hand. My Dad was piiiiiiiiissed off. I was burning the trash and didn't make sure the fire was completely out before I left to play football with my friends. I lived in a small town, I heard sirens going off and thought nothing of it. Then my Mom came to the field we were playing in and I knew I was in trouble. It seemed the wind blew some embers onto my Dads compost pile that he had been building for years. It turned the whole thing in to a pile of ashes, along with about 2 acres of land.

I've never spanked my 8 year old daughter because she's never given me reason to. If she does, we'll discuss it once and she'll be fully aware that the next time, she gets a spanking rather that a conversation. However, I have a perfect child so I can't imagine her ever needing a spanking.

[KCinNY]

I don't care if other parents spank their kids, but I haven't spanked my kid and chances are, I won't.

[CoMoChief]

I will. I got spanked when I ****ed up, but it was never overboard. Doesn't the bible say something like its okay to spank your kids or something similar to that? I know it sounds dumb and I'm not a religous buff by any means but I thought I heard that from someone.

[MadMax]

Originally Posted by Warrior5

Classic Bill Cosby! "Russell, My Brother, Who I Slept With".

!! I had that album

[MadMax]

Years ago i spanked my then 11 year old son at my Grandma's house, Christmas..He told me that didn't hurt dad. I almost lost it,but instead took him aside and told him he was being a lttle prick and he had 2 choices.. If you don't respect me I will NEVER respect you and I won't stoop to your level and kick the living **** outta you...He has been respectfull ever since.Right or wrong it worked and he is a very good son to this day, he is 22 and a father himself now BTW I got beat as a child, I don't hold it against my dad I feel I deserved some of it

[trndobrd]

I don't have kids yet, but when I do, I expect they will be too tired after their 14 hour shifts in the mines to cause much trouble.

[RJ]

Originally Posted by trndobrd

I don't have kids yet, but when I do, I expect they will be too tired after their 14 hour shifts in the mines to cause much trouble.

Hah, that shows what you know. The mines won't even hire kids under five unless they're Mexican.