Life S.O. wearing ex's jewelry?

El Jefe · 03-02-2010, 03:29 PM

So I was curious about this. Do you think it's ok for your significant other to wear jewelry or clothing articles from their previous significant others? My girlfriend has a few very minor jewlery pieces that she has from past relationships. I don't really care that much, except for a necklace she has from a previous boyfriend that I really don't like, but it's an annoyance that I can deal with. Is there some form of etiquette on this topic? If she had a ton of it, then I would probably be a little more annoyed. I'm sure a lot of you have had similar issues, just curious if it bothered you or not.

wutamess · 03-02-2010, 03:33 PM

Kill the bitch!
I keed! I keed!

Seriously though... there's no need for her to wear that shit.
She's holding on to something. It meant something to her then just because she's with you doesn't mean it doesn't now.

If you're fine with it then be fine with it...
If you're not... it's a matter of disrespect and you need to grow a pair.

Miles · 03-02-2010, 03:35 PM

De Beers would suggest you replace that necklace.

**morphius** · 03-02-2010, 03:39 PM

I guess it would depend on the jewelry, the simple generic type stuff I wouldn't sweat. The others, hmmm.

Fish · 03-02-2010, 03:40 PM

It's just a stupid piece of jewelry. Don't be all insecure or jealous because the shit she has didn't all come from you. It's just stuff. If you make a scene over it, you're just going to come off as a dick.

sedated · 03-02-2010, 03:40 PM

I don't really see an issue with it.

If it was an engagement ring or a locket with his and her pictures in it, I could see having an issue, but not just some generic earings or whatever.

I still have clothes from past girlfriends, and it never brings back some emotional attachment when I wear it.

How did it come up that it was a gift from an ex? Did she specifically point it out, or did you ask?

wild1 · 03-02-2010, 03:40 PM

WWOJD

**Rain Man** · 03-02-2010, 03:41 PM

I'd draw the line at wedding rings or engagement rings.

Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is?

Katipan · 03-02-2010, 03:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rain Man

I'd draw the line at wedding rings or engagement rings.

Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is?

I was going to post this. But with way more sexual innuendo.

**Rain Man** · 03-02-2010, 03:42 PM

I still wear a Disney World t-shirt I got on a vacation with a girlfriend more than 20 years ago. I don't think it bothers my wife, but maybe I should ask.

**Rain Man** · 03-02-2010, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Katipan

I was going to post this. But with way more sexual innuendo.

It would be impossible to have more sexual innuendo than one of my posts. It's just deeply buried between the lines.

loochy · 03-02-2010, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rain Man

I'd draw the line at wedding rings or engagement rings.

Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is?

This. Maybe it's just a nice necklace. There's no reason to make her take it of if she really just likes the necklace. I doubt she's holding onto it because every time she puts it on she thinks of him.

Hell, I still have a jacket that my ex got me and I like the jacket. I don't even think of her anymore when I put it on. I'd be more than a little pissed if my GF wanted me to get rid of it.

Jilly · 03-02-2010, 03:46 PM

I think jewelry is a little different than clothing. Unless the clothing was actually the ex's clothing. Like, I'm not gonna go around wearing my ex's button down shirt around the house.
I'd say if it's just costume stuff, then no worries, but anything with value - monetary or otherwise should probably not really be something she should wear.

BIG_DADDY · 03-02-2010, 03:47 PM

Just look at it and laugh one time. She will ask you what you are laughing at to which you respond "that necklace just shows what poor tast your ex has, pretty funny" and move on. She may wear it a few more times but that's it.

CoMoChief · 03-02-2010, 03:48 PM

It's a piece of jewelry. Who ****ing cares. Would you have known otherwise had she not told you it was from a previous BF?

03-02-2010, 03:29 PM
El Jefe Don't tread on me. Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Where the peaches grow Casino cash: $136369	S.O. wearing ex's jewelry? So I was curious about this. Do you think it's ok for your significant other to wear jewelry or clothing articles from their previous significant others? My girlfriend has a few very minor jewlery pieces that she has from past relationships. I don't really care that much, except for a necklace she has from a previous boyfriend that I really don't like, but it's an annoyance that I can deal with. Is there some form of etiquette on this topic? If she had a ton of it, then I would probably be a little more annoyed. I'm sure a lot of you have had similar issues, just curious if it bothered you or not.
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Fish Missing Dick Curl Join Date: Sep 2005 Casino cash: $2087069	It's just a stupid piece of jewelry. Don't be all insecure or jealous because the shit she has didn't all come from you. It's just stuff. If you make a scene over it, you're just going to come off as a dick. __________________
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Rain Man Welcome, Eric Fisher & Friends Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: 1.61 KM high city Casino cash: $62676453	I'd draw the line at wedding rings or engagement rings. Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is? __________________ Onward Fisher, Onward Fisher, block right through that line. Block the ball clear down the field, a touchdown sure this time. Onward Fisher, Onward Fisher, fight on for her fame. Fight, fellows, fight, fight, fight, we'll win this game.
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03-02-2010, 03:42 PM	#10
Rain Man Welcome, Eric Fisher & Friends Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: 1.61 KM high city Casino cash: $62676453	I still wear a Disney World t-shirt I got on a vacation with a girlfriend more than 20 years ago. I don't think it bothers my wife, but maybe I should ask. __________________ Onward Fisher, Onward Fisher, block right through that line. Block the ball clear down the field, a touchdown sure this time. Onward Fisher, Onward Fisher, fight on for her fame. Fight, fellows, fight, fight, fight, we'll win this game.
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03-02-2010, 03:46 PM	#13
Jilly MVP Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Independence Casino cash: $731430	I think jewelry is a little different than clothing. Unless the clothing was actually the ex's clothing. Like, I'm not gonna go around wearing my ex's button down shirt around the house. I'd say if it's just costume stuff, then no worries, but anything with value - monetary or otherwise should probably not really be something she should wear. __________________ "In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight." — Ram Dass
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BIG_DADDY THE RED MENACE Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: San Mateo, CA 94401 Casino cash: $56921	Just look at it and laugh one time. She will ask you what you are laughing at to which you respond "that necklace just shows what poor tast your ex has, pretty funny" and move on. She may wear it a few more times but that's it. __________________
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