Misc Does the "no contact" rule work? - Page 2

God of Thunder · 11:39 AM

We've all had those breakups! The ones you didn't see coming, or the ones you did and didn't do anything about it! For whatever reason though, your friends, family, and everyone else always seem to say...

"Do NOT contact them, and in time, they'll come running and begging back"

This always seems strange, however, I think it generally holds true. Once you're gone, you start to mean more to that person. Once you know longer think about it, they tend to come flying back.

Do you all find this to be true or not?

cookster50 · 02-08-2012, 10:19 AM

Someone give this guy his balls back, FAST!

MIAdragon · 02-08-2012, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by cookster50

Someone give this guy his balls back, FAST!

She already did, he just needs to accept it and move on.

**The Franchise** · 02-08-2012, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

I was already against this and said "are you going to keep dating this guy in the meantime?" and she said "yes, I like him......he's not you"

That statement right there would have been the end for me. Like htismaqe said.....don't contact her again. I wouldn't even talk to her when you get back from Florida....even if she contacts you.

**** that bitch. Life is to short to be the fall-back guy.

tooge · 02-08-2012, 10:27 AM

best rule is to have as much contact with her best looking friend as you can. It'll make you feel better and her feel worse. No, the no contact rule doesn't work btw.

InChiefsHeaven · 02-08-2012, 10:28 AM

Don't be mad. It is what it is. It hurts, maybe like hell, but it's not the end of the world. Think of it as a good thing. She figured it out before you crazy kids got married and had kids. WHEW! Now have a beer and celebrate. You have your whole life in front of you.

FAX · 02-08-2012, 10:34 AM

I remember seeing this really old Popeye cartoon one time where Popeye and Bluto were on this old, rickety boat and they made a pact that neither one of them would ever have anything to do with women again. They shook hands and everything.

Then, as luck would have it, Olive Oyl came floating along on a raft. Apparently, the ship she had been on ran aground and sunk and she was the sole survivor. Well, it wasn't long before Popeye and Bluto were going at it hammer and tongs. Popeye would smash Bluto, then Bluto would stuff Popeye into a barrel and on and on. Heck, at one time they had Olive Oyl by the arms and stretched her out. It was kind of amazing how much she could stretch there in that part.

Anyhow, it just goes to show that it's easy to say "get over it", but even dudes like Popeye and Bluto can go a little nuts when women are involved. Even super skinny, stretchy girls.

FAX

**Iowanian** · 02-08-2012, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by htismaqe

Dude, in all seriousness. That last conversation should be the last time you EVER initiate contact with her.

If she "wants a break" and wants to keep dating this other guy, she's EXPLORING. She doesn't want you but she wants the security she has with you. If she can't find it somewhere else, she's gonna come crawling back. You don't wanna be that guy.

Cut her loose and move on.

This is a kinder way of saying what I would have said.

She's gone....cut her loose.

You were looking for a piece of pussy when you found that one.

I can't think of 1 time after early High School that I ever got back together with someone when there was any kind of "break".

Move on. Life is too short to not be happy.

I've been run over like you're saying....and it ended up being the best thing that gal ever did for me.

**The Bad Guy** · 02-08-2012, 10:51 AM

Sounds like she was looking for a way out, but didn't want to tell you because of the reaction. She tried using words like break to give herself an out but your reaction wasn't a great one on your part either. Telling someone they should know what they want after 1.5 years is a crock.

Cut bait and move on.

Demonpenz · 02-08-2012, 10:52 AM

Next that woman and get another one. If she coes back it is on your conditions, but personally I just give them the one strike rule and they are OUT.

**Iowanian** · 02-08-2012, 10:54 AM

The question you need to be asking is where you are going with your pals this weekend and who will be your first slump buster....

Don't waste any more time on that gal. It's not even worth being angry or sad. Just move on and learn.

Skyy God · 02-08-2012, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by htismaqe

Dude, in all seriousness. That last conversation should be the last time you EVER initiate contact with her.

If she "wants a break" and wants to keep dating this other guy, she's EXPLORING. She doesn't want you but she wants the security she has with you. If she can't find it somewhere else, she's gonna come crawling back. You don't wanna be that guy.

Cut her loose and move on.

Especially since she already had a date lined up when she told you about taking a break.

Don't be a chump.

**Iowanian** · 02-08-2012, 10:57 AM

She went on a date, if you ever kiss her again, you're probably catching some 2nd hand pecker.

If I had a hot tub time machine, I'd go back to 1995 and slap myself and do what I'm telling you to do instead of what I did.

God of Thunder · 02-08-2012, 10:58 AM

There's a lot the relationship that was bad. She started lying constantly about petty shit. The conversation in my original post happened on Sunday night, and I have not spoke to her since then. I dropped her stuff off Monday to her mother who tried to pry about the situation. I don't want her back.....I couldn't take her back. She even made a comment that said "yes, I went on a date with him, and I kissed him" and she made another comment....."I wish you'd just go sleep with someone else to get over me"......very hateful

What I want most, is that revenge. I want her to see she ****ed up, try to get me back, and I just smile and say "no"

htismaqe · 02-08-2012, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

There's a lot the relationship that was bad. She started lying constantly about petty shit. The conversation in my original post happened on Sunday night, and I have not spoke to her since then. I dropped her stuff off Monday to her mother who tried to pry about the situation. I don't want her back.....I couldn't take her back. She even made a comment that said "yes, I went on a date with him, and I kissed him" and she made another comment....."I wish you'd just go sleep with someone else to get over me"......very hateful

What I want most, is that revenge. I want her to see she ****ed up, try to get me back, and I just smile and say "no"

In that case, I'd say you have a 50/50 shot, maybe better, of getting the chance.

Odds are that the new guy isn't all the great so she'll eventually call.

**The Bad Guy** · 02-08-2012, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

There's a lot the relationship that was bad. She started lying constantly about petty shit. The conversation in my original post happened on Sunday night, and I have not spoke to her since then. I dropped her stuff off Monday to her mother who tried to pry about the situation. I don't want her back.....I couldn't take her back. She even made a comment that said "yes, I went on a date with him, and I kissed him" and she made another comment....."I wish you'd just go sleep with someone else to get over me"......very hateful

What I want most, is that revenge. I want her to see she ****ed up, try to get me back, and I just smile and say "no"

None of that will work. Everyone privately wants that after a breakup, but it never really ever turns out that way.

What you should want is to go out with buddies and have the time of your life and realize these are the prime years.

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02-08-2012, 10:19 AM	#16
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tooge MVP Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Liberty, MO Casino cash: $674112	best rule is to have as much contact with her best looking friend as you can. It'll make you feel better and her feel worse. No, the no contact rule doesn't work btw.
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InChiefsHeaven Rockin' yer FACE OFF! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Omaha, Nebraska Casino cash: $635437	Don't be mad. It is what it is. It hurts, maybe like hell, but it's not the end of the world. Think of it as a good thing. She figured it out before you crazy kids got married and had kids. WHEW! Now have a beer and celebrate. You have your whole life in front of you. __________________ We have a million reasons for failure, but not one excuse... Die Donks, DIE!! Holy Crap fellas!!! We did it!!! THREE TIMES!!!
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02-08-2012, 10:34 AM	#21
FAX testing ... 1, 2, 3 Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Tennessee Casino cash: $6753759	I remember seeing this really old Popeye cartoon one time where Popeye and Bluto were on this old, rickety boat and they made a pact that neither one of them would ever have anything to do with women again. They shook hands and everything. Then, as luck would have it, Olive Oyl came floating along on a raft. Apparently, the ship she had been on ran aground and sunk and she was the sole survivor. Well, it wasn't long before Popeye and Bluto were going at it hammer and tongs. Popeye would smash Bluto, then Bluto would stuff Popeye into a barrel and on and on. Heck, at one time they had Olive Oyl by the arms and stretched her out. It was kind of amazing how much she could stretch there in that part. Anyhow, it just goes to show that it's easy to say "get over it", but even dudes like Popeye and Bluto can go a little nuts when women are involved. Even super skinny, stretchy girls. FAX
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02-08-2012, 10:51 AM	#23
The Bad Guy Scott Pioli Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: The Copacobana Casino cash: $9283645	Sounds like she was looking for a way out, but didn't want to tell you because of the reaction. She tried using words like break to give herself an out but your reaction wasn't a great one on your part either. Telling someone they should know what they want after 1.5 years is a crock. Cut bait and move on. __________________
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02-08-2012, 10:52 AM	#24
Demonpenz Woman should only make babies Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Apartment "G UNIT!" Casino cash: $-363864	Next that woman and get another one. If she coes back it is on your conditions, but personally I just give them the one strike rule and they are OUT. __________________
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02-08-2012, 10:54 AM	#25
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1698454	The question you need to be asking is where you are going with your pals this weekend and who will be your first slump buster.... Don't waste any more time on that gal. It's not even worth being angry or sad. Just move on and learn.
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02-08-2012, 10:57 AM	#27
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1698454	She went on a date, if you ever kiss her again, you're probably catching some 2nd hand pecker. If I had a hot tub time machine, I'd go back to 1995 and slap myself and do what I'm telling you to do instead of what I did.
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02-08-2012, 10:58 AM	#28
God of Thunder Trained to reign as the one. Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Casino cash: $8849344	There's a lot the relationship that was bad. She started lying constantly about petty shit. The conversation in my original post happened on Sunday night, and I have not spoke to her since then. I dropped her stuff off Monday to her mother who tried to pry about the situation. I don't want her back.....I couldn't take her back. She even made a comment that said "yes, I went on a date with him, and I kissed him" and she made another comment....."I wish you'd just go sleep with someone else to get over me"......very hateful What I want most, is that revenge. I want her to see she ****ed up, try to get me back, and I just smile and say "no"
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