You know anything about divorce?...advice please - Page 3

Soupnazi · 12-23-2004, 12:00 PM

Well folks, it's been a rough couple of weeks for my family. After my mother in law nearly died during routine surgery, and my mentor (and good friend of the family) at work lost his 4 yr old son, now I find out that my brother's marriage will end in divorce.

The reason I post this is that my family has zero experience with divorce stuff, and maybe you guys/gals can help with some info. He's 22, she's 21, they've got a 13 month old son together. They've been married for about 1 year and 3 months.

My entire family knew this girl was going to be no good, and it didn't take long to come to pass, but she's left him 'cause she's "not happy." Now she's screwing around with some ex boyfriend of hers, moved back in with her parents, yada yada.

Brother works as a car mechanic, and doesn't make a ton of money, but is able to support the two of them, the baby, and make the payments on the house they just bought. She has no job, and apparently staying home all day with her baby, and not cleaning a thing is just too much stress for her to handle. Anyway, what's the move here?

I've instructed him to move his money, but what can he expect as far as how the courts are going to treat him on custody, alimony, the house, child support, all that? I've heard that you've got the upper hand if you file first, but I don't know for sure.

Any thoughts? Thanks in advance.

Soupnazi · 12-23-2004, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Skip Towne

Be careful, Nazi, Scanfan64 is a WOMAN!!! Never trust a woman or a lawyer. She is BOTH!!

**Skip Towne** · 12-23-2004, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Scanfan64

Oh Skippy. You are so bad.

Damn, I must be slipping. I was hoping for an emotional outburst. Hehe

Mojo Rising · 12-23-2004, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Scanfan64

Congratulations! Jealous! Wish I could say I was anywhere close to such bliss. Eventually, right? Anyhoo, Merry Christmas!

It will happen and you will know when you meet the right person. We were both lucky in that we knew what wasn't right from our prior experiences. Thanks for the congrats! Happy Holidays!

Scanfan55 · 12-23-2004, 03:19 PM

It's Christmas babe.
Everyone deserves forgiveness.

MOhillbilly · 12-23-2004, 03:39 PM

kill her.

Marada · 12-23-2004, 05:04 PM

[QUOTE=Scanfan64]I'm in NH. But I can recommend someone in Missouri, possibly.

I will say that attorneys fees are a function of the bullshitting back and forth. If spouse #1 wants to whine and bitch about everything, then both parties will pay high attorneys fees. Sometimes mediation works.

I am NOT a Missouri attorney, but, in NH, one year of marriage isn't long enough to warrant alimony, generally. NH Child Support is statutory and based on the income of both parties and is like a chart (discretion is minimal, unless special circumstances warrant it). Alimony is based on need, ability to pay, and contributions to the marriage.

Having went through it I'll confirm what Scan has said. For Child Support Missouri uses a formula to determine the amount the child should receive then each parent pays a precentage based on income. Alimony is not usually considered if the lady is capable of working. Another interesting thing is that under Missouri law you can get a desolution with just 1 attorney if you can agree on all the points. She can sign a quit claim on the house under a desolution as well.

12-23-2004, 12:00 PM
Soupnazi Totally yummy Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: The kitchen @ River Falls Casino cash: $10006400	You know anything about divorce?...advice please Well folks, it's been a rough couple of weeks for my family. After my mother in law nearly died during routine surgery, and my mentor (and good friend of the family) at work lost his 4 yr old son, now I find out that my brother's marriage will end in divorce. The reason I post this is that my family has zero experience with divorce stuff, and maybe you guys/gals can help with some info. He's 22, she's 21, they've got a 13 month old son together. They've been married for about 1 year and 3 months. My entire family knew this girl was going to be no good, and it didn't take long to come to pass, but she's left him 'cause she's "not happy." Now she's screwing around with some ex boyfriend of hers, moved back in with her parents, yada yada. Brother works as a car mechanic, and doesn't make a ton of money, but is able to support the two of them, the baby, and make the payments on the house they just bought. She has no job, and apparently staying home all day with her baby, and not cleaning a thing is just too much stress for her to handle. Anyway, what's the move here? I've instructed him to move his money, but what can he expect as far as how the courts are going to treat him on custody, alimony, the house, child support, all that? I've heard that you've got the upper hand if you file first, but I don't know for sure. Any thoughts? Thanks in advance.
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12-23-2004, 03:19 PM	#34
Scanfan55 Phobia Rocks! Thanks! Join Date: Aug 2004 Casino cash: $10004900	It's Christmas babe. Everyone deserves forgiveness.
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12-23-2004, 03:39 PM	#35
MOhillbilly Mama Tried Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Missouri Casino cash: $9949903	kill her. __________________ True Son of Liberty
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12-23-2004, 05:04 PM	#36
Marada Deputy Dawg Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Callao, Missouri Casino cash: $7985100	[QUOTE=Scanfan64]I'm in NH. But I can recommend someone in Missouri, possibly. I will say that attorneys fees are a function of the bullshitting back and forth. If spouse #1 wants to whine and bitch about everything, then both parties will pay high attorneys fees. Sometimes mediation works. I am NOT a Missouri attorney, but, in NH, one year of marriage isn't long enough to warrant alimony, generally. NH Child Support is statutory and based on the income of both parties and is like a chart (discretion is minimal, unless special circumstances warrant it). Alimony is based on need, ability to pay, and contributions to the marriage. Having went through it I'll confirm what Scan has said. For Child Support Missouri uses a formula to determine the amount the child should receive then each parent pays a precentage based on income. Alimony is not usually considered if the lady is capable of working. Another interesting thing is that under Missouri law you can get a desolution with just 1 attorney if you can agree on all the points. She can sign a quit claim on the house under a desolution as well.
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