Chiefs OT-Broken Heart?! - Page 3

jaa1025 · 06:48 PM

EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy!

Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues.

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How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

Summery of the happenings.

Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy.

About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead.

So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week.

Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left.

Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back.

Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch.

After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out.

Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life.

**Bowser** · 05-26-2008, 05:52 PM

Was she your best friend for like six years?

RustShack · 05-26-2008, 05:52 PM

Just go date some chick, take her virginity, and then break up with her a week later... I don't really know how it works, but it did for me. ha

Sam Hall · 05-26-2008, 05:53 PM

'I hope the friend you've thrown yourself with gets drunk and loses his job.'

It will be OK, man.

stumppy · 05-26-2008, 05:54 PM

The very first thing you need to do is get her to agree to meet up with you so you both can talk. Hopefully you are both still on speaking terms. Tell her you have a lot on your mind and you'll never feel right if you let the oppurtunity to talk things over with her pass by. Meet her at HER favorite restaurant or club. Just make it too easy for her to see you one more time. Get cleaned up, dressed up, and be the perfect gentleman. Bring flowers for her. Now, listen carefully. this is the most important part. She is just like all women. At one point she'll have to go powder her nose. When she does you need to immediately open her purse, dig around and find your balls. As soon as you have them back in hand walk away.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Smed1065

Maybe some of it is wanting what you was told you could not have, it works that way.

I assume that you are pretty young from the previous postings?

First advice would be to admit it is over and move on.

Maybe it is a sign that she is a Colt fan?
They have been heart breakers for Chief fans for years.

Yeah probably...which made me want it more. I just didn't understand how she could be in love with me (unless she was full of shit) and still want to date other people. The only problem we ever had was dating other people. It made me uncomfortable. I never pushed her for a relationship but she knew I wanted more..she wanted more, but she wasn't ready...according to her. 3 1/2 months...I should have put up a wall or just remained **** buddies (which is how we started in February).

blueballs · 05-26-2008, 05:58 PM

this thread is not worthless
but would be so much better with tags

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 05:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stumppy

The very first thing you need to do is get her to agree to meet up with you so you both can talk. Hopefully you are both still on speaking terms. Tell her you have a lot on your mind and you'll never feel right if you let the oppurtunity to talk things over with her pass by. Meet her at HER favorite restaurant or club. Just make it too easy for her to see you one more time. Get cleaned up, dressed up, and be the perfect gentleman. Bring flowers for her. Now, listen carefully. this is the most important part. She is just like all women. At one point she'll have to go powder her nose. When she does you need to immediately open her purse, dig around and find your balls. As soon as you have them back in hand walk away.

I saw her Sunday to pick up my shirt. She was balling...and looked like she had been for most of the day. I gave her a hug, talked for a minute and said good bye. She did say she would get together and talk later this week.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Bowser

Was she your best friend for like six years?

No...Met her in February...started dating/sleeping together very quickly...we hung out pretty much every day...when we didn't, she would call/text me.

The first month alone she texted me over 1000 times...kind of clingy, but I surprisingly enjoyed talking with her that much.

05-26-2008, 06:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stumppy

The very first thing you need to do is get her to agree to meet up with you so you both can talk. Hopefully you are both still on speaking terms. Tell her you have a lot on your mind and you'll never feel right if you let the oppurtunity to talk things over with her pass by. Meet her at HER favorite restaurant or club. Just make it too easy for her to see you one more time. Get cleaned up, dressed up, and be the perfect gentleman. Bring flowers for her. Now, listen carefully. this is the most important part. She is just like all women. At one point she'll have to go powder her nose. When she does you need to immediately open her purse, dig around and find your balls. As soon as you have them back in hand walk away.

Heh. Awesome.

Some other quality advice is to break into a paddock or corral.

KCUnited · 05-26-2008, 06:01 PM

In all seriousness, the more you act like you don't care, the more the power shifts in your favor. That's when the call or text happens, not when your groveling.

stumppy · 05-26-2008, 06:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jaa1025

I saw her Sunday to pick up my shirt. She was balling...and looked like she had been for most of the day. I gave her a hug, talked for a minute and said good bye. She did say she would get together and talk later this week.

Hopefully she is still carrying your pair in her purse. Although she may have already had a point and giggle party with her girlfriends and your hairy pair.

milkman · 05-26-2008, 06:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stumppy

Hopefully she is still carrying your pair in her purse. Although she may have already had a point and giggle party with her girlfriends and your hairy pair.

She has those things locked away.

stumppy · 05-26-2008, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by milkman

She has those things locked away.

With the rest of her collection.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 06:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KCUnited

In all seriousness, the more you act like you don't care, the more the power shifts in your favor. That's when the call or text happens, not when your groveling.

Yeah...that's what I'm trying to do...it is hard this time. Normally when I ignore a chick, she wants to know why I am...maybe it will work with this girl to.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 06:07 PM

Yeah...I gave her the power already when I texted her and emailed her a few times...I need to get it back. She has control now...****!

05-26-2008, 05:17 PM
jaa1025 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Casino cash: $10000898	OT-Broken Heart?! EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy! Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues. ************************************************************************************************** ******************************* How the F* do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. Summery of the happenings. Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy. About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead. So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week. Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left. Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back. Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch. After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out. Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life. Last edited by jaa1025; 09-06-2012 at 06:48 PM..
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stumppy New and Improved Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Springfield, Mo. Casino cash: $-2181410	The very first thing you need to do is get her to agree to meet up with you so you both can talk. Hopefully you are both still on speaking terms. Tell her you have a lot on your mind and you'll never feel right if you let the oppurtunity to talk things over with her pass by. Meet her at HER favorite restaurant or club. Just make it too easy for her to see you one more time. Get cleaned up, dressed up, and be the perfect gentleman. Bring flowers for her. Now, listen carefully. this is the most important part. She is just like all women. At one point she'll have to go powder her nose. When she does you need to immediately open her purse, dig around and find your balls. As soon as you have them back in hand walk away. __________________ “As a nation, we can endure damaging policies for a four-year term. But we cannot survive a president willing to terminate our Constitution”
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