Life I'm having a miserable time gettin into the spirit - Page 3

Megbert · 12-03-2009, 01:10 AM

No job. probably lose the house. can't tell if gf of going on 3 years. If she really wants to be a part of 'us' anymore. I am back in school for pharmacy tech since i've been unemployed since july 17. I am doing a bit of side work - laying out newspaper publications once a month. Guess I am just feeling miserable right now. Hopefully it'll pass if not well then I just don't know what I'm gonna do. - MERRY CHRISTMAS

Jilly · 12-03-2009, 11:22 AM

Thought I'd share a poem here, by Ann Weems:

Some of us walk into Advent
tethered to our unresolved yesterdays
the pain still stabbing
the hurt still throbbing.
It's not that we don't know better;
it's just that we can't stand up anymore by ourselves.
On the way to Bethlehem,
will you give us a hand?

I decided to post this because none of you are alone. Christmas, Advent, this time of waiting pushes a lot of people into a time of abandonment, loneliness, and despair. It's normal to feel sad at Christmas. And not to be a Debbie Downer, but there's not much to be happy about. Even as a Christian, I find that the birth of Christ is riddled with sadness. Beyond the manger is a cross...an ominous cross....and while we decorate the manger with shepherds and sheep and gifts from Kings...that cross looms in the distance. The idea that God had to send a Savior to the world because we were so horrible and that that child had to grow up to die is not exactly one of the happiest thoughts in the world.

So you're not alone and that's ok. And your sadness is ok. And maybe somewhere beyond the cross, you'll find a hope that supersedes it all. And in the meantime, we're all here to give you a hand and help you along.

Sorry to get all religious, but it's that time of year for me.

Brock · 12-03-2009, 11:24 AM

There are people younger than you dying of cancer right now.

58kcfan89 · 12-03-2009, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTown

AZ

I want you to do yourself a favor. Go to a homeless shelter this weekend, and donate your time. Take a moment and talk to some of these folks and listen to their problems. In doing this, it will help you to remember that in giving, that is when we REALLY receive. I promise you, that if you take the time to do this, it will help you to remember that:

1. No matter how bad your problems are, somebody else's problems are probably worse - and you can actually help them, just by listening

2. Christmas spirit is more about giving yourself to others, and when we do this, it's only then that we can fully capture what it means (and reap it's blessings).

Good luck!

This. I know there's a lot of people that don't have the time or don't care enough to do it, but volunteering really helps. One of the best Christmases I've ever had was 2 years ago when I volunteered at the United Way, just helping them clean their offices & doing some errands for them.

But yeah, if you can find something positive to focus on, it'll probably improve your outlook on everything. I hope everything ends up working out for you.

Simply Red · 12-03-2009, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by AZChiefFan

No job. probably lose the house. can't tell if gf of going on 3 years. If she really wants to be a part of 'us' anymore. I am back in school for pharmacy tech since i've been unemployed since july 17. I am doing a bit of side work - laying out newspaper publications once a month. Guess I am just feeling miserable right now. Hopefully it'll pass if not well then I just don't know what I'm gonna do. - MERRY CHRISTMAS

PM me anytime, brosky. IIRC, you were one of my first friends on here.

LaChapelle · 12-03-2009, 11:57 AM

You are a male born at the tailend of the 21st century and living in the USA
get a grip

**MahiMike** · 12-03-2009, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by chasedude

I used to be so thrilled as a kid around Christmas now I just feel like it's another day of the year. Reminiscing about the good times waking up on Christmas day to see what Santa left has come down to a "who gives a shit" attitude about the holiday. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a scrooge. I just don't feel like I used to anymore. Plus my birthday is in a couple days and I just want it to come and go like every other day. I guess I'm a bit depressed. I'm going to be 38 and I really don't feel human anymore. Numb is the best word I can come up with for what I feel like. It's been a shitty year for me. Lost a job too only to get another that I'm over qualified for. Going from a IT Admin job to stocking shelves at Walmart sure cuts down my confidence factor. I'm sure something will pickup somewhere, maybe. Eh, what the hell do I care anymore. At least I have the planet to share my pain with. Not that many care, it's just good to get it out.

Hang in there dude. Good things are around the corner.

**MahiMike** · 12-03-2009, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Jilly

Thought I'd share a poem here, by Ann Weems:

Some of us walk into Advent
tethered to our unresolved yesterdays
the pain still stabbing
the hurt still throbbing.
It's not that we don't know better;
it's just that we can't stand up anymore by ourselves.
On the way to Bethlehem,
will you give us a hand?

I decided to post this because none of you are alone. Christmas, Advent, this time of waiting pushes a lot of people into a time of abandonment, loneliness, and despair. It's normal to feel sad at Christmas. And not to be a Debbie Downer, but there's not much to be happy about. Even as a Christian, I find that the birth of Christ is riddled with sadness. Beyond the manger is a cross...an ominous cross....and while we decorate the manger with shepherds and sheep and gifts from Kings...that cross looms in the distance. The idea that God had to send a Savior to the world because we were so horrible and that that child had to grow up to die is not exactly one of the happiest thoughts in the world.

So you're not alone and that's ok. And your sadness is ok. And maybe somewhere beyond the cross, you'll find a hope that supersedes it all. And in the meantime, we're all here to give you a hand and help you along.

Sorry to get all religious, but it's that time of year for me.

Nice. Thanks.

El Jefe · 12-03-2009, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ChiTown

+1

I love the Spirit of Christmas. The giving of yourself to others, being able to focus on doing good deeds, trying to be more Christ-Like, etc. To me, that is what pushes me into Holiday Mode. The fact that I have kids 8 & 11, who still really dig it as well, doesn't hurt my overall experience either.

Exactly, I love Christmas time, I love helping people who need it or getting gifts for those who couldn't normally. Now a days though the Media has us saturated with a "Must spend a ton of money to have a good Christmas" which is ridiculous. Jesus is the reason for the season.

Katie · 12-03-2009, 12:05 PM

FYI - Bismarck, ND unemployment rate is 2.9%...I know it probably seems like considering going to hell, but there are a lot of jobs here to be had... weather sucks half the year, but the people are great. If you're a hunter, it's heaven...

There are always in life...

El Jefe · 12-03-2009, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Dayze

I’m in the same boat. I’m not religious, so let’s get ‘that’ out of the way.
But it seems like each year as soon as Halloween hits we have to start planning our schedules and finances to deal with Xmas. We’re grown a** people – we can get whatever we want, whenever we want (within reason). But, each year, we have to buy gifts for like 20 people; and even if they’re small gifts, that adds up. Plus, it’s F’n cold and dark by 3pm; I’m wiped out from working, and have our own stuff to deal with without adding in the frustration of xmas.

We usually buy for our nieces and nephews who are still youngins, but man…those kids get a ton of stuff. I’m not sure we’ll be able to swing it financially this year anyway, so hopefully the parents will understand (I’m sure they will).

It seems like Xmas is just another holiday that occurs each month to stimulate buying goods. Each month there is a a holiday / big sale of sorts.

This is true.

Simply Red · 12-03-2009, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by LaChapelle

You are a male born at the tailend of the 21st century and living in the USA
get a grip

so is yer face!

Delano · 12-03-2009, 12:12 PM

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**Bearcat** · 12-03-2009, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Buehler445

All that stuff does is create undue stress. "OMG I have to get the lights up!" "FOOOOOOOOCK a lightbulb burned out." "What if they don't like the gift I got them? We have to make sure we spend the same amount on each kid. But your sister got your parents that!!!!" "We're going to be late for dinner! ZOMGWTFBBQ The rolls aren't done...NOOOOOOOO"

As far as the OP, I definitely understand how having the Christmas (mostly shopping) spirit shoved down your throat can get annoying, and there will always be those who take it to the extreme and think you should be so happy this month that you sh*t candy canes..... but as far as the undue stress, I guess it's a perk of being single and not having to worry about who's place we're going to this year, etc; and my family is pretty laid back, so I'd end up being way too apathetic about other people's feelings on where I should be Christmas morning, who I should be with, blah blah blah.

People put way too much thought into that crap... give gifts to those you care about the most, or do what you can afford; be with those you want to be with, and make the most of it. It's not that complicated, mostly because there's another one next year, and the year after that, and the year after that....

**notorious** · 12-03-2009, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

Steel doesn't get it's strength until its' been put through fire.

That is a badass quote. Good Work.

**Buehler445** · 12-03-2009, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Bearcat

As far as the OP, I definitely understand how having the Christmas (mostly shopping) spirit shoved down your throat can get annoying, and there will always be those who take it to the extreme and think you should be so happy this month that you sh*t candy canes..... but as far as the undue stress, I guess it's a perk of being single and not having to worry about who's place we're going to this year, etc; and my family is pretty laid back, so I'd end up being way too apathetic about other people's feelings on where I should be Christmas morning, who I should be with, blah blah blah.

People put way too much thought into that crap... give gifts to those you care about the most, or do what you can afford; be with those you want to be with, and make the most of it. It's not that complicated, mostly because there's another one next year, and the year after that, and the year after that....

This.

12-03-2009, 01:10 AM
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12-03-2009, 11:22 AM	#31
Jilly MVP Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $9984925	Thought I'd share a poem here, by Ann Weems: Some of us walk into Advent tethered to our unresolved yesterdays the pain still stabbing the hurt still throbbing. It's not that we don't know better; it's just that we can't stand up anymore by ourselves. On the way to Bethlehem, will you give us a hand? I decided to post this because none of you are alone. Christmas, Advent, this time of waiting pushes a lot of people into a time of abandonment, loneliness, and despair. It's normal to feel sad at Christmas. And not to be a Debbie Downer, but there's not much to be happy about. Even as a Christian, I find that the birth of Christ is riddled with sadness. Beyond the manger is a cross...an ominous cross....and while we decorate the manger with shepherds and sheep and gifts from Kings...that cross looms in the distance. The idea that God had to send a Savior to the world because we were so horrible and that that child had to grow up to die is not exactly one of the happiest thoughts in the world. So you're not alone and that's ok. And your sadness is ok. And maybe somewhere beyond the cross, you'll find a hope that supersedes it all. And in the meantime, we're all here to give you a hand and help you along. Sorry to get all religious, but it's that time of year for me.
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