Chiefs OT-Broken Heart?! - Page 5

jaa1025 · 06:48 PM

EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy!

Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues.

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How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

Summery of the happenings.

Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy.

About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead.

So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week.

Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left.

Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back.

Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch.

After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out.

Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life.

KCrockaholic · 05-26-2008, 07:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rausch

Maintain your class.

Fight any revenge urges you might have, and for ****'s sake, don't post pics.

There is a dignity in sucking it up and moving on instead of being shallow and vindictive...

now thats a lesson most men need too hear.

KCrockaholic · 05-26-2008, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by jaa1025

Yeah...I gave her the power already when I texted her and emailed her a few times...I need to get it back. She has control now...****!

i still dont get why you broke up with her though...it sounds like she was really into you. are you afraid of being in love or what?

**Smed1065** · 05-26-2008, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by kcrockaholic4life

i still dont get why you broke up with her though...it sounds like she was really into you. are you afraid of being in love or what?

She told him she was not "ready". Commitment.

Hammock Parties · 05-26-2008, 07:47 PM

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PastorMikH · 05-26-2008, 07:48 PM

DON'T YOU DARE POST THOSE PICS NOW!!!

**Skip Towne** · 05-26-2008, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by GOATSE

PICS NOW OR I LEAVE FOREVER

Promises, promises.

Hammock Parties · 05-26-2008, 07:53 PM

POST THE GODDAMN PICS YOU SON OF A BITCH

HEAL

05-26-2008, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by RustShack

Just go date some chick, take her virginity, and then break up with her a week later... I don't really know how it works, but it did for me. ha

Ha indeed. You're very cool. I'll bet you get refunds on movie tickets too.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Sully

So...
You like her, you want her back, and it's tearing you up. Add to that she says she still loves you...

... so you are going to walk away and forget her.
Sounds reasonable.

It's not what I want to do...at all. I can't bother her though...I have to let her think about things and come to me. I texted her. I emailed her. I called her. I handled it about as poorly as a guy can. It will make things worse I think if I keep being persistent right now. Maybe a few weeks down the road try to call her and let her know I'm thinking about her? But right now...these last few days. I've called her twice...didn't take the call. I've texted her 3 times...nothing. I might have really screwed it up.

05-26-2008, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by GOATSE

POST THE GODDAMN PICS YOU SON OF A BITCH

HEAL

In order for peer pressure to work, one kinda has to be a peer.

I said peer not pear.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by kcrockaholic4life

i still dont get why you broke up with her though...it sounds like she was really into you. are you afraid of being in love or what?

No...I embraced it for the first time in a long time. I wanted to move forward with her...she has commitment issues, not me. (ass backwards). She developed feelings for me and got scared...started pulling away. I remember thinking 2 weeks ago when I started to notice it...I chose the wrong thing which was to give her space. I stopped calling her every day. I started turning off my phone when I was sleeping and missed a few of her calls. I stopped pressing because I thought that's what she wanted: Space.

Hammock Parties · 05-26-2008, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

In order for peer pressure to work, one kinda has to be a peer.

I said peer not pear.

PEER INTO MY ASSHOLE

05-26-2008, 08:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jaa1025

It's not what I want to do...at all. I can't bother her though...I have to let her think about things and come to me. I texted her. I emailed her. I called her. I handled it about as poorly as a guy can. It will make things worse I think if I keep being persistent right now. Maybe a few weeks down the road try to call her and let her know I'm thinking about her? But right now...these last few days. I've called her twice...didn't take the call. I've texted her 3 times...nothing. I might have really screwed it up.

Dude - those rules are stupid. They're nothing but games, don't call for 3 days after the first date - and all that other crap. If you want her back you show her that you do. That doesn't mean stalk her.

OTOH, if she's completely ignoring all forms of communication I would say that you're screwed. "Getting her back" would be a tall order, I think.

Sully · 05-26-2008, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by jaa1025

It's not what I want to do...at all. I can't bother her though...I have to let her think about things and come to me. I texted her. I emailed her. I called her. I handled it about as poorly as a guy can. It will make things worse I think if I keep being persistent right now. Maybe a few weeks down the road try to call her and let her know I'm thinking about her? But right now...these last few days. I've called her twice...didn't take the call. I've texted her 3 times...nothing. I might have really screwed it up.

Well, I agree with this.
Space is good.
I just thought it was odd that you were saying you were going to forget about her, considering those facts.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Dude - those rules are stupid. They're nothing but games, don't call for 3 days after the first date - and all that other crap. If you want her back you show her that you do. That doesn't mean stalk her.

OTOH, if she's completely ignoring all forms of communication I would say that you're screwed. "Getting her back" would be a tall order, I think.

Yeah...looking back...it was terrible to do. It really made things worse. I saw her yesterday...she was crying but she seemed really happy to see me. I made her smile. I asked her to go out later in the week and she said it sounded like a good idea. I was so happy.

I texted her later that night...nothing. I told her it felt great to see her and am looking forward to seeing her again. Then wished her good night. This morning...I texted her after work (which i used to do all the time) and told her to wake up! and have a good day at work...and to call me later. Nothing. I called her and left a message (because she didn't answer) later on in the day when I hadn't heard from her. No call.

She worked until 430 then had a wake to go to with a friend tonight...so I know she is busy. Should I give it more time or try to call her tomorrow? We did have plans to go out....tentatively...but with her not answering/returning phone calls or texts...I don't know if that has changed. It's not like her all...

05-26-2008, 05:17 PM
jaa1025 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Casino cash: $10000898	OT-Broken Heart?! EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy! Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues. ************************************************************************************************** ******************************* How the F* do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. Summery of the happenings. Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy. About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead. So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week. Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left. Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back. Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch. After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out. Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life. Last edited by jaa1025; 09-06-2012 at 06:48 PM..
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