prayer request: for my children - Page 6

Loki · 09-22-2006, 08:26 PM

i have been contemplating wether or not to do this for quite some time and am still not too keen on spilling my guts out on this BB despite the fact that i feel there is a good sense of "community" here. i'm not an overly religious person and somewhat question the power of prayer, but if ever i needed support through prayer, now is that time. i have two beautiful children (daughter age 7, son age 5) and they really need your help/thoughts/prayers.

if any of you have been wondering where i have been or what i've been doing for the past couple months, here's the scoop... please bear with me as this is a LONG story.

for the last 2 years, i have been battling my ex-wife for custody of my children. it has been an ugly UGLY fight both in terms of emotional (and financial) stress.
my ex (from now on will be addressed as "asshole" for storytelling purposes) is a drug (coccaine, weed, pills, etc) abuser, physical abuser, and an emotional abuser. she lives with and associates with an ex-convict and his juvenile delinquent son. these two people also abuse my children when they are around them.

examples of abuse you ask? honestly there are too many to list but i will give you a small sample. (i could seriously write a bible sized book about this.) not feeding the kids, not bathing the kids, not taking them to the doctor's when they are sick or injured, locking them out of the house in rain/snow/cold/night (in t-shirts and shorts) so they could do their drugs, hitting/kicking/beating the kids (i have pictures of bruises), stealing the kid's college funds for drug money, shooting the kids with bb guns, doing drugs in front of the kids, locking the kids in rooms unsupervised with porn movies in the dvd players, yelling/screaming at the kids, telling the kids they wished they were never born, making the kids drink beer, forcing the kids to be physically abusive to each other, threatening the kids, physically abusing the kid's pet dog in front of them to intimidate the kids (ie: i'm going to do this to YOU if you don't...) throwing out the kids birthday/x-mas presents that come from my house/family in front of them (usually after smashing them to bits), smoking (whatever) in front of them and then blowing it in their faces...
*sigh* the list goes on... i'm sure you get the idea, so back to the story.

prior to jan 1st of this year, my children were in asshole's physical custody and were subjected to all sorts of inappropriate or abusive behaviors (as noted above). i was only allowed to see them on weekends. after jan 1st, my children moved in with me and things drastically changed for them (obviously for the better)
within 3 weeks of them living with me, all their teachers (from the private school i had them enrolled in) approached me and said they noticed a complete and positive change in the children's behavior, appearance, and academics. unbeknownst to me, asshole had approached the school and made up all sorts of BS lies and stories about me and none of the teachers would approach or speak with me (for the most part). luckily my son's teachers were some pretty sharp individuals (thanks so much for believing in me mrs. m and mrs. e !!) and pulled me aside prior to the children moving in with me and asked me about the situation. (apparently they had tried contacting asshole since the beginning of the year about my son's aggressive and inappropriate behaviors in class. they insisted that he get some type of counseling but were getting nowhere with asshole so turned to me.) i explained to them that i had been trying to get counseling for my children since the divorce, but was unable to get asshole to sign consent forms because she didn't want the children to talk about her, convict boyfriend, gangster son, or what was going on @ her house. this news disgusted them, so they told me some of the things that asshole had said about me and told me that they would try and help me get some counseling. a couple weeks later (after more unsuccessful attempts to get any response from asshole) i had an official school document DEMANDING counseling for my son and several teachers giving me full support to start some type of action. (they also contacted DSS on my children's behalf due to some of the things my children were telling their teachers at school).

so, with support from the school, and DSS investigating asshole (finally) i decided to make my move and slam this b!tch. i contacted my attorney (who knew i was going to go for custody when i had some ammo), got the kids in with the counselor (i had been trying to get them in with for the last 2 yrs), and served asshole with my intent to sue for full custody.
from there all hell broke loose.

we have been to court at least 6 times in the last 4 months. been subjected to hardcore investigations by the courts and DSS, subjected to drug testing (i have passed all of them because i am CLEAN, while she has failed them... she came out 30 times (16000ng) over the limit (500ng) for coccaine) subjected to countless questioning (the same friggin questions over and over *groan*) by countless court agents (who never seem to pass prior investigation information along) and paid out so much money i've had to sell things and take out loans just to keep up. and this is far from over...

just before our last court appearance (about 3 weeks ago) asshole took my daughter and threw her against a wall and subsequently put her in the hospital. she is out of the hospital now and doing much better. she won't suffer any permanent neurological damage according to the doctors, but didn't have any "marks" on her so the hospital couldn't prove (without reasonable doubt) that asshole did it to her. both my kids vehemently maintain that asshole did do this, but we have no hard proof.

un-fucking-believeable.

currently, i have been granted full physical and legal custody of my children. however, for some strange reason, asshole has been granted visitation rights (every other weekend) and "interim dinner visits" where she can take the kids every wednesday night for 3 hours. thankfully, my daughter (currently) doesn't have to go with asshole, but my son does. (so what fucking GOOD does it mean for me to have full custody if she has any contact with them??!!! someone please enlighten me on that one... i'm baffled...)
at the very least has this change in custody brought about any positive changes? you bet! my kids are now in a new school, love it and are doing GREAT , they have new friends that they get to play with (their mother never let them go visit friends or have friends over because of the drugs... she even used to transport the drugs in their school backpacks... WTF??!!), they now have sleep overs, playdates, birthday parties (where no one smashes their gifts and/or throws them out), they have been begging to play sports and are now enrolled in and playing sports, get to see their counselor/therapist (whom they really dig...) on a weekly basis, and best of all, they are smiling and laughing again... it has been a long time since i've seen something so simple as a smile on their faces (how friggin sad THAT sh*t was... for a LONG time). it is truly a beautiful thing.

it is my firm opinion that asshole should have no contact with my children whatsoever, but apparently the extremely liberal court system in my state doesn't agree with my assessments. (fuck!!) my attorney, on the other hand, is very pleased with current orders as this state is EXTREMELY biased towards women/mothers and fathers usually (99.9% of the time) get totally SHAFTED. at this point i feel i can attest to that.
now asshole has shifted her tactics and is fucking with me with the only group of people who will still listen to her bullsh*t: DSS. she can't beat me in court so she's getting these dumb b4stards to fuck up our world. how is she getting them to listen to her? well, she tells them that i force my kids to watch porn, that i'm a porn addict and that i wank my hogan in front of my kids... she has also threatened my children to lie for her to support her claims. (nice) all her other claims (about me) to DSS have been thrown out as ridiculous, but this time she got their attention. i am now being investigated by these DSS dumbasses for 45 days. fuck!!!

despite the fact that i have a lot of good people backing and supporting me (teachers, lawyers, counselors/therapists, doctors, neighbors, family members, etc..) and that my entire case is based in truth and fact and hers is based on lies and pure bullsh*t, we are going into court yet again for another "pre-trial" hearing this coming thursday the 28th of sept 2006. when will this end??!!

members of chiefsplanet. i humbly ask for your support, thoughts and prayers in regards to this matter on behalf of my children, their safety, well-being and subsequent future(s). i have fought long and hard in this battle for them, and will continue to do so, but i am losing faith in this court system that won't close the door on this and continues to grant their fucked-up mother chances to manipulate and damage their chances of having any form of "normal" childhood.

please keep my children in your thoughts and prayers this coming thursday.

thank you.

**Donger** · 09-25-2006, 04:57 PM

God, that's horrible. Hang in there, Loki. I'll be thinking of you and yours.

Blitz · 09-25-2006, 06:01 PM

Good luck and I hope your kids never have to deal with 'asshole' ever again.

MarcBulger · 09-25-2006, 08:49 PM

Hang in their, hopefully your prayers will be answered. Me and Mine will say a prayer tonight.

Scaga · 09-26-2006, 08:49 AM

Best of luck.....
Here's to hoping there is light at the end of your tunnel.
And here's to hoping here's a light at the end of her tunnel connected to a train.

Swanman · 09-26-2006, 11:42 AM

Loki, thanks for putting any "problems" I have into complete perspective. You should be sainted for not putting asshole and the entire legal system into the same shallow grave.

This would probably have no legs, but as she is lying about what you do with your kids in order to swing custody to her favor, a libel/slander suit might be in order. It's awful that she is accusing horrendous things against you in order to manipulate the legal system in her favor. Also, I know it's probably prohibited because of patient/client privilege, but I'm wondering if your kids' therapist could petition the court to have CUNextTuesday taken out of the picture entirely.

picasso · 09-26-2006, 12:11 PM

MOVE!
Get the hell out of there and at least 1500 miles between you and the asshole. Make it so she has to pay for the expense of transportation of seeing her children, bet she won't even try. And if she does don't send them back for visitation.
From state to state there isn't anything the other parent can do in the courts from long distance, the asshole would have to go to your state and file for visitation or failure to allow and have to live there while going through lengthy multiple court dates, bet she wont even try.
How do I know? I've been there man.

09-26-2006, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by picasso

MOVE!
Get the hell out of there and at least 1500 miles between you and the asshole. Make it so she has to pay for the expense of transportation of seeing her children, bet she won't even try. And if she does don't send them back for visitation.
From state to state there isn't anything the other parent can do in the courts from long distance, the asshole would have to go to your state and file for visitation or failure to allow and have to live there while going through lengthy multiple court dates, bet she wont even try.
How do I know? I've been there man.

That's true. I've been going through that for the past 3 years. It's been difficult and expensive. This friday will be our final trip to Virginia. After we win there, it's over.

**Nzoner** · 09-26-2006, 01:14 PM

More thoughts and good wishes coming from here,keep your head up.

Radar Chief · 09-26-2006, 01:50 PM

Done deal.

ChiefsOne · 09-26-2006, 02:30 PM

Ask your attorney to request supervised visitation for "asshole" (sounds like skank whore to me) when she has the kids. This should be an easy thing to do since she has tested positive for drugs.

How old are your kids? If they are over 10 and reseasonably mature for thier age the judge can talk to them get their side.

Good luck, my ex was a complete bitch for years and this story makes her sound like an angel.

BIG_DADDY · 09-26-2006, 04:49 PM

Wow that is a really messed up situation. It just pulls at my heart listening to it. It sounds like your determination is paying off she is just not going to let it go because she is a bitch. I don't know how some people can deal with a situation like that you have my admiration as well.

Phil,

Good to hear things are working out for you. Any kid would blessed to have either one of you for fathers.

Calcountry · 09-26-2006, 04:52 PM

After this is all done, could you anonymously let us know where she is, so we can tie her up and sizzle her cvnt hairs with a branding iron?

Calcountry · 09-26-2006, 04:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bunnytrdr

After this is all done, could you anonymously let us know where she is, so we can tie her up and sizzle her cvnt hairs with a branding iron?

Just kidding.

09-26-2006, 08:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ChiefsOne

Good luck, my ex was a complete bitch for years and this story makes her sound like an angel.

Yeah, this thread made me count my blessings.

Loki · 09-26-2006, 08:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morphius

Are you making a journal of this? Might not be a bad idea. And with your neighbors seeing some of it you might get them to act as witnesses on this situation.

I know it isn't much help, but document everything you can.

yes, i have been keeping a journal on everything since the divorce. it is VERY thick and full of bad situations/memories.

i am sick of writing in it. it never ends.

09-22-2006, 08:26 PM
Loki May 1993 - June 2003 Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: not where i want to be... Casino cash: $10004900	prayer request: for my children i have been contemplating wether or not to do this for quite some time and am still not too keen on spilling my guts out on this BB despite the fact that i feel there is a good sense of "community" here. i'm not an overly religious person and somewhat question the power of prayer, but if ever i needed support through prayer, now is that time. i have two beautiful children (daughter age 7, son age 5) and they really need your help/thoughts/prayers. if any of you have been wondering where i have been or what i've been doing for the past couple months, here's the scoop... please bear with me as this is a LONG story. for the last 2 years, i have been battling my ex-wife for custody of my children. it has been an ugly UGLY fight both in terms of emotional (and financial) stress. my ex (from now on will be addressed as "asshole" for storytelling purposes) is a drug (coccaine, weed, pills, etc) abuser, physical abuser, and an emotional abuser. she lives with and associates with an ex-convict and his juvenile delinquent son. these two people also abuse my children when they are around them. examples of abuse you ask? honestly there are too many to list but i will give you a small sample. (i could seriously write a bible sized book about this.) not feeding the kids, not bathing the kids, not taking them to the doctor's when they are sick or injured, locking them out of the house in rain/snow/cold/night (in t-shirts and shorts) so they could do their drugs, hitting/kicking/beating the kids (i have pictures of bruises), stealing the kid's college funds for drug money, shooting the kids with bb guns, doing drugs in front of the kids, locking the kids in rooms unsupervised with porn movies in the dvd players, yelling/screaming at the kids, telling the kids they wished they were never born, making the kids drink beer, forcing the kids to be physically abusive to each other, threatening the kids, physically abusing the kid's pet dog in front of them to intimidate the kids (ie: i'm going to do this to YOU if you don't...) throwing out the kids birthday/x-mas presents that come from my house/family in front of them (usually after smashing them to bits), smoking (whatever) in front of them and then blowing it in their faces... sigh the list goes on... i'm sure you get the idea, so back to the story. prior to jan 1st of this year, my children were in asshole's physical custody and were subjected to all sorts of inappropriate or abusive behaviors (as noted above). i was only allowed to see them on weekends. after jan 1st, my children moved in with me and things drastically changed for them (obviously for the better) within 3 weeks of them living with me, all their teachers (from the private school i had them enrolled in) approached me and said they noticed a complete and positive change in the children's behavior, appearance, and academics. unbeknownst to me, asshole had approached the school and made up all sorts of BS lies and stories about me and none of the teachers would approach or speak with me (for the most part). luckily my son's teachers were some pretty sharp individuals (thanks so much for believing in me mrs. m and mrs. e !!) and pulled me aside prior to the children moving in with me and asked me about the situation. (apparently they had tried contacting asshole since the beginning of the year about my son's aggressive and inappropriate behaviors in class. they insisted that he get some type of counseling but were getting nowhere with asshole so turned to me.) i explained to them that i had been trying to get counseling for my children since the divorce, but was unable to get asshole to sign consent forms because she didn't want the children to talk about her, convict boyfriend, gangster son, or what was going on @ her house. this news disgusted them, so they told me some of the things that asshole had said about me and told me that they would try and help me get some counseling. a couple weeks later (after more unsuccessful attempts to get any response from asshole) i had an official school document DEMANDING counseling for my son and several teachers giving me full support to start some type of action. (they also contacted DSS on my children's behalf due to some of the things my children were telling their teachers at school). so, with support from the school, and DSS investigating asshole (finally) i decided to make my move and slam this b!tch. i contacted my attorney (who knew i was going to go for custody when i had some ammo), got the kids in with the counselor (i had been trying to get them in with for the last 2 yrs), and served asshole with my intent to sue for full custody. from there all hell broke loose. we have been to court at least 6 times in the last 4 months. been subjected to hardcore investigations by the courts and DSS, subjected to drug testing (i have passed all of them because i am CLEAN, while she has failed them... she came out 30 times (16000ng) over the limit (500ng) for coccaine) subjected to countless questioning (the same friggin questions over and over groan) by countless court agents (who never seem to pass prior investigation information along) and paid out so much money i've had to sell things and take out loans just to keep up. and this is far from over... just before our last court appearance (about 3 weeks ago) asshole took my daughter and threw her against a wall and subsequently put her in the hospital. she is out of the hospital now and doing much better. she won't suffer any permanent neurological damage according to the doctors, but didn't have any "marks" on her so the hospital couldn't prove (without reasonable doubt) that asshole did it to her. both my kids vehemently maintain that asshole did do this, but we have no hard proof. un-fucking-believeable. currently, i have been granted full physical and legal custody of my children. however, for some strange reason, asshole has been granted visitation rights (every other weekend) and "interim dinner visits" where she can take the kids every wednesday night for 3 hours. thankfully, my daughter (currently) doesn't have to go with asshole, but my son does. (so what fucking GOOD does it mean for me to have full custody if she has any contact with them??!!! someone please enlighten me on that one... i'm baffled...) at the very least has this change in custody brought about any positive changes? you bet! my kids are now in a new school, love it and are doing GREAT , they have new friends that they get to play with (their mother never let them go visit friends or have friends over because of the drugs... she even used to transport the drugs in their school backpacks... WTF??!!), they now have sleep overs, playdates, birthday parties (where no one smashes their gifts and/or throws them out), they have been begging to play sports and are now enrolled in and playing sports, get to see their counselor/therapist (whom they really dig...) on a weekly basis, and best of all, they are smiling and laughing again... it has been a long time since i've seen something so simple as a smile on their faces (how friggin sad THAT sht was... for a LONG time). it is truly a beautiful thing. it is my firm opinion that asshole should have no contact with my children whatsoever, but apparently the extremely liberal court system in my state doesn't agree with my assessments. (fuck!!) my attorney, on the other hand, is very pleased with current orders as this state is EXTREMELY biased towards women/mothers and fathers usually (99.9% of the time) get totally SHAFTED. at this point i feel i can attest to that. now asshole has shifted her tactics and is fucking with me with the only group of people who will still listen to her bullsht: DSS. she can't beat me in court so she's getting these dumb b4stards to fuck up our world. how is she getting them to listen to her? well, she tells them that i force my kids to watch porn, that i'm a porn addict and that i wank my hogan in front of my kids... she has also threatened my children to lie for her to support her claims. (nice) all her other claims (about me) to DSS have been thrown out as ridiculous, but this time she got their attention. i am now being investigated by these DSS dumbasses for 45 days. fuck!!! despite the fact that i have a lot of good people backing and supporting me (teachers, lawyers, counselors/therapists, doctors, neighbors, family members, etc..) and that my entire case is based in truth and fact and hers is based on lies and pure bullsh*t, we are going into court yet again for another "pre-trial" hearing this coming thursday the 28th of sept 2006. when will this end??!! members of chiefsplanet. i humbly ask for your support, thoughts and prayers in regards to this matter on behalf of my children, their safety, well-being and subsequent future(s). i have fought long and hard in this battle for them, and will continue to do so, but i am losing faith in this court system that won't close the door on this and continues to grant their fucked-up mother chances to manipulate and damage their chances of having any form of "normal" childhood. please keep my children in your thoughts and prayers this coming thursday. thank you.
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09-25-2006, 04:57 PM	#76
Donger "Think BOOM!" Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: 33.675° N 106.475° W Casino cash: $6879900 VARSITY	God, that's horrible. Hang in there, Loki. I'll be thinking of you and yours. __________________ I think the young people enjoy it when I "get down," verbally, don't you?
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09-25-2006, 06:01 PM	#77
Blitz Starter Join Date: Oct 2004 Casino cash: $10004900	Good luck and I hope your kids never have to deal with 'asshole' ever again.
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09-25-2006, 08:49 PM	#78
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09-26-2006, 08:49 AM	#79
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09-26-2006, 11:42 AM	#80
Swanman It's a league game, Dude Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Itasca, IL Casino cash: $9967354	Loki, thanks for putting any "problems" I have into complete perspective. You should be sainted for not putting asshole and the entire legal system into the same shallow grave. This would probably have no legs, but as she is lying about what you do with your kids in order to swing custody to her favor, a libel/slander suit might be in order. It's awful that she is accusing horrendous things against you in order to manipulate the legal system in her favor. Also, I know it's probably prohibited because of patient/client privilege, but I'm wondering if your kids' therapist could petition the court to have CUNextTuesday taken out of the picture entirely.
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09-26-2006, 12:11 PM	#81
picasso That's a GOOD boy!! Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Seattle Casino cash: $10004900	MOVE! Get the hell out of there and at least 1500 miles between you and the asshole. Make it so she has to pay for the expense of transportation of seeing her children, bet she won't even try. And if she does don't send them back for visitation. From state to state there isn't anything the other parent can do in the courts from long distance, the asshole would have to go to your state and file for visitation or failure to allow and have to live there while going through lengthy multiple court dates, bet she wont even try. How do I know? I've been there man.
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09-26-2006, 01:14 PM	#83
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09-26-2006, 01:50 PM	#84
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09-26-2006, 02:30 PM	#85
ChiefsOne Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Springfield, MO Casino cash: $5128192	Ask your attorney to request supervised visitation for "asshole" (sounds like skank whore to me) when she has the kids. This should be an easy thing to do since she has tested positive for drugs. How old are your kids? If they are over 10 and reseasonably mature for thier age the judge can talk to them get their side. Good luck, my ex was a complete bitch for years and this story makes her sound like an angel.
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09-26-2006, 04:49 PM	#86
BIG_DADDY THE RED MENACE Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Texas Casino cash: $2558410	Wow that is a really messed up situation. It just pulls at my heart listening to it. It sounds like your determination is paying off she is just not going to let it go because she is a bitch. I don't know how some people can deal with a situation like that you have my admiration as well. Phil, Good to hear things are working out for you. Any kid would blessed to have either one of you for fathers. __________________ The diabolical genius of Marxism-Socialism is that it provides the emotional and intellectual road map for autocrats to persuade millions of people to support their own enslavement to government. ~Mark Levin April 15, 2019
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09-26-2006, 04:52 PM	#87
Calcountry Shoot the tube Join Date: Oct 2003 Casino cash: $7527870	After this is all done, could you anonymously let us know where she is, so we can tie her up and sizzle her cvnt hairs with a branding iron?
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