I'm cohabitating... would appreciate any advice.

[Direckshun]

Well I did the dumbest ****ing thing possible and fell in love with someone.

Now we're making plans to move in together sometime this coming fall. She's lived with a significant other before, but this is the first time I've ever done it.

So considering how green I am to the whole process, I'd appreciate the ironclad braintrust at the Planet to provide me with advice (preferably from experience) so I don't walk into bear trap after bear trap throughout this ordeal.

Thanks in advance.

[acesn8s]

Originally Posted by Joie

This is true. I'm wearing Aces' bathrobe right now. And "borrow" his shirts often...I like to sleep in them.

I was wondering what happened to my clothing.

5. You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of 'em just cheat on you.

Love the Clerks reference.

[tmax63]

I always thought women looked their sexiest when they were wearing my shirt and not much else especially when you'd helped get her clothes dirty in the first place.

[Joie]

Originally Posted by acesn8s

I was wondering what happened to my clothing.

It's all hanging on your side of the closet, baby. Except for the sweatshirts that are now mine, and your bathrobe, which once again I'm wearing.

[stlchiefs]

Ironically enough I one of my best friends just ended things with his cohabitating gf last night. It'll be interesting to see how they solve everything. Last night he went to sleep at his moms house so they weren't in the same place. Now he has to figure out how to get her out of the place. His biggest problem is that she was living with her grandparents before they moved in together and when moving out told them my friend and her were getting married to quell their worries. He pretty much paid for the place and other expenses of hers while she's been in school so she doesn't really have a place to go. This one's going to get interesting.

[ChiefsFire]

Originally Posted by stlchiefs

Ironically enough I one of my best friends just ended things with his cohabitating gf last night. It'll be interesting to see how they solve everything. Last night he went to sleep at his moms house so they weren't in the same place. Now he has to figure out how to get her out of the place. His biggest problem is that she was living with her grandparents before they moved in together and when moving out told them my friend and her were getting married to quell their worries. He pretty much paid for the place and other expenses of hers while she's been in school so she doesn't really have a place to go. This one's going to get interesting.

Is she hot?

I got a free bed.

[Joie]

Originally Posted by ChiefsFire

Is she hot?

I got a free bed.

Did you not read his post? It ain't free.....you'll be paying all of her expenses while she goes to school.

[ChiefsFire]

Originally Posted by Joie

Did you not read his post? It ain't free.....you'll be paying all of her expenses while she goes to school.

Yes I read it....

So she will use alil hot water and some electricity...

I will through an egg mcmuffin or some mac and cheese at her once in awhile.

Its a hand up not a handout...

[Baby Lee]

Originally Posted by acesn8s

Love the Clerks reference.

Thanks for dereferencing the reference before I could get my 'thirty-seven dicks!!!' line.

[Calcountry]

Originally Posted by Direckshun

Well I did the dumbest ****ing thing possible and fell in love with someone.

Now we're making plans to move in together sometime this coming fall. She's lived with a significant other before, but this is the first time I've ever done it.

So considering how green I am to the whole process, I'd appreciate the ironclad braintrust at the Planet to provide me with advice (preferably from experience) so I don't walk into bear trap after bear trap throughout this ordeal.

Thanks in advance.

If she has a sister, flirt with her big time.

[banyon]

Originally Posted by Skip Towne

Have you given any thought to being common law married? It can happen easily depending on the state you live in.

Bad idea. Common law married still means you may need a real divorce, especially if kids are involved.

[jAZ]

Originally Posted by KCJohnny

This is only the tip of the ice burg. It's not just religious people who say marriage is better, the actual facts speak for themselves. In truth, most women who live with a man before marriage really believe they will marry him. It is supposed to be a kind of "trial marriage". It seems like a good idea at first but it doesn't really work out that way.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]
Only one couple in five who lives together before marriage actually ends up getting married.

Not to mention its a mortal sin (6th commandment) which leads to damnation.

Success of cohabitation and marriage is a reflection of personal emotional maturity. If you are an emotional adult, who's entering the search for a partner with open eyes, and a desire to make healthy, selfless sacrifices, then you will be far more likely to find someone who has a similar world view.

Those two people will work hard to learn how to have a healthy relationship, no matter what religion dictates, or scholars study. Picking the right person for you is critical and it takes time and a personal willingness to be open and honest about who you are, where you are in your life and what your expectations in a relationship are. And most importantly, it requires a willingness to be alone as you take a pass on one wrong person after another. Neediness and desperation, even if only a little, cause so many people to jump into this or that relationship, and hoping it will work out this time.

For me, the right person, seperated herself from everyone else I had dated in such a completely obvious way that it was easy.

I can't speak for all relationships and all people, but my experience tells me that if you have doubts, it's probably not the right situation at the right time.

[AustinChief]

Originally Posted by KCJohnny

Not to mention its a mortal sin (6th commandment) which leads to damnation.

um, no. The 6th commandment is against ADULTRY...

Adultery is defined as sexual intercourse between a man and a married woman who is not his wife

What in hell does that have to do with living with a woman?

Unless you use the alternate numbering of the commandments and then #6 is murder... in which case... I haver lived with a few women... and you may be right to warn on that one....

[Fairplay]

Originally Posted by jAZ

Success of cohabitation and marriage is a reflection of personal emotional maturity. If you are an emotional adult, who's entering the search for a partner with open eyes, and a desire to make healthy, selfless sacrifices, then you will be far more likely to find someone who has a similar world view.

Those two people will work hard to learn how to have a healthy relationship, no matter what religion dictates, or scholars study. Picking the right person for you is critical and it takes time and a personal willingness to be open and honest about who you are, where you are in your life and what your expectations in a relationship are. And most importantly, it requires a willingness to be alone as you take a pass on one wrong person after another. Neediness and desperation, even if only a little, cause so many people to jump into this or that relationship, and hoping it will work out this time.

For me, the right person, seperated herself from everyone else I had dated in such a completely obvious way that it was easy.

I can't speak for all relationships and all people, but my experience tells me that if you have doubts, it's probably not the right situation at the right time.

yeah....yeah.....ZZZzzzzzzz

[keg in kc]

I just noticed that my neighbor has a nice ox. I hope God sneezed or something, and I didn't get caught.

[Adept Havelock]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

I just noticed that my neighbor has a nice ox. I hope God sneezed or something, and I didn't get caught.

Would that be Zeus and Company, or the one that thinks you are perfect just as you are?[/Baltar]