Suicide?

[Brianfo]

Have you ever contemplated suicide? I have, I think about it everyday. I think my kids and wife would be better off without me. My wife is an absolute angel. She did not deserve to be stuck with me. I know that it's the right thing to do. But it's cowardly. I know for a fact that I am going to hell. I love my kids and wife so much, but I have not been a good father.

[Lumpy]

Originally Posted by Bugeater

Heh, I'm probably one of them. But good lord, this is absolutely the worst possible place to try to find the help he needs.

Not yet. And no, you can't have my digits.

I do agree that this should be the LAST place anyone should seek help. However, people need to understand that when someone is hurting they will turn to anyone that will listen.

[mikeyis4dcats.]

Originally Posted by Bo's Pelini

Hopefully the guy logged off to get help. I've heard usually people who are going to kill themselves don't announce it but either way Brainfo needs help. It is kinda ****ed up people on here are mocking him when all of us fall on hard times.

times are different. there have been numerous incidents in the pastt year or two of people posting threads like this, and following through, often enduring the same jokes and ridicule as people have here. some people have a hard time separating real life and the internet in today's society, others don't have anyone they can talk to in real life. it is a myth that people that talk about it aren't serious.

[Simply Red]

Originally Posted by Lumpy

Not yet. And no, you can't have my digits.

I do agree that this should be the LAST place anyone should seek help. However, people need to understand that when someone is hurting they will turn to anyone that will listen.

that's what's up

[KurtCobain]

brianfo needs to get on here on say he wont do it if we get lumpy nudes.
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[listopencil]

Originally Posted by ClearmontChief

Dude, I'm not sure you're serious or not, so many smartelics on here saying off the wall stuff all the time...

As a person who has suffered a suicide in the family, I agree it's cowardly. I feel it's the utmost in selfish decisions a person could ever make. All it does is transfer hurt and pain. Somebody who's contemplating that are obviously hurting and in pain about something. But, if successful, you pass your hurt, pain, and confusion on down the line. You angelic wife will turn stoic and your kids will carry guilt FOREVER that they had done something wrong.

My wife's father took his life. She's NEVER been the same. Used to be happy go lucky, a lot of fun to be around. Now, she's never happy...she's depressed and on all kinds of meds. Used to be she'd never take a Tylenol. She's ANGRY! Mad at the world with no patience for anything. Hurtful, hurtful words during arguments and when angry at the kids. I have to tell them "don't take anything personal when words are said in anger." That's helped them a lot. For me, I just hang on because she loves me, and I remember the way things used to be and live in the hope that she'll change back. But, I wouldn't count on it. She's still madder than hell at him, has never forgiven him and never will...and, thus his selfish act he just passed along his troubles to us.

Would you ever really want to have your kids feel that way? You say you've been a terrible dad. Well, that my friend would be ultimate child abuse. You'd ruin a bit of them forever. Don't ever do it, and consider speaking with a counselor or minister.

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[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by mikeyis4dcats.

times are different. there have been numerous incidents in the pastt year or two of people posting threads like this, and following through, often enduring the same jokes and ridicule as people have here. some people have a hard time separating real life and the internet in today's society, others don't have anyone they can talk to in real life. it is a myth that people that talk about it aren't serious.

That's ****ed up. I remember that one sports betting guy on here making a thread like this but as I recall he was just being an asshole unless something changed and I missed it?

Hmm. I recall a guy I went to HS with kill himself he was always very quiet seemed depressed but still we were surprised to hear the news. I can understand being depressed around this time of the year the weather is shitty and the holiday season is a pretty hard time for us who've lost someone recently. It gets better though and theres nothing wrong with getting help unfortunately we live in a society that makes you look like a dumbass if you admit weakness.

[Iowanian]

I'm not going to bust someone's balls for a post like yours. Talking about it is better than doing it.

Suicide takes all of your problems and reasons you don't feel you can live and puts those problems squarely on the shoulders of those who care about you most and will be affected for their lifetimes as well.

Whatever your issue is, taking that option eliminates any chance to fix it.

If you feel you're a bad father or husband, get some help. Whatever your issue is, get some help, talk to someone who knows how to deal with it. On top of that, wake up in the morning and say to yourself in the mirror "today is the day I become a better father/husband" ....whatever. Kiss your wife, your kids and take 1 step to being that better person.

Maybe it is a simple breakfast conversation....ask about the pending day, whatever.

The action of which you speak is the worst thing you can do.

As for hell, I'm not your preacher, but there is a solution for that too. Ask for some help from the man himself. Ask for forgiveness, ask for strength and guidance.

You'll be alright.

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by mikeyis4dcats.

This. My older brother (and best friend, and coworker) killed himself 15 months and 26 days ago. He left behind a daughter who adored him, a mother and father who raised him the best they could, my sister and her family, and my family including my now 19 month old son who'll never get to know how awesome his uncle was.

The only person who benefited from his death was my absolute **** of an "ex" sister in law. Their divorce was to be final just days after he did it until she reneged on the agreement and told him she was going to drag him through it all again. It had already been a year of hell.

I miss him every day, as does everyone at work, and the whole family. Not one of us is better for him having done it. No matter how much you think it will sole things, the only person it doesn't cause an immense amount of pain is you.

Wow. Sorry to hear that. What a shame.

[MrNightly]

Brianfo.... we all go through sucky times... I can say i understand where you are coming from, but every time a thought like that comes into my head, I think about my beautiful daughters and how they would miss their dad. They are only 5 and 7, and even though their mom ran off from us a couple years ago, and the divorce was nasty... you have to think about the kids.

I think this time of year really brings out bad thoughts in a lot of us too maybe... shoot me a pm and we can chat. Hell, maybe we should grab a drink and laugh about the wasted life we so futilely wallow in here... because usually after really thinking through things, there is always a single bright spot one can cling to.

I am flat out broke dude, but the drinks are on me. That's why god made Credit Cards right? Let's chat.

[Tribal Warfare]

To me this is an epic troll thread started by the OP.

[Al Bundy]

Get some professional help. Living life like that isn't good or productive.

[Trevo_410]

I have S.A.D.- contemplating suicide everyday sadly comes with it...

just think of the good things

[Iowanian]

Originally Posted by Tribal Warfare

To me this is an epic troll thread started by the OP.

I doubt it.

Are you really willing to try to push a guy over the edge this time of year?
There are threads and situations worthy of ridicule and jokes at the person's expense....but this is not a funny topic in any manner. There are plenty of stories like this one that don't have a happy ending.


Brian.
There isn't a worse solution. period.

[MIAdragon]

Originally Posted by Tribal Warfare

To me this is an epic troll thread started by the OP.

if so an IP ban is in order. Get professional help, we're going to tell you to rub some dirt in it and stfu, not really what you need right now. But seriously dont be a pussy, take the hard path and correct whatever deficiencies you have and own up to your responsibilities. Id kick you in the balls if you were in front of me right now.

[FAX]

I hope to God this isn't serious.

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